Falling Accidentally In Love Is Normal. But Do Compatibility Tests.

Falling accidentally in love is perfectly normal. But thereafter you must do compatibility tests. This ensures your accidentally in love case does not lead to disaster.

The truth is . . . most people fell in love on a day they were least expecting it. My wife is one such person.

When I met my wife it was in a Christian convention. At this time I was in search of a wife and this convention provided an opportunity to find one. Don't get me wrong. I didn't show up at this particular convention just to get a wife. The convention was an annual event where Christians of similar faith assembled to hear God's word.

So bottom line. I needed a wife. Fellow Christians were assembled here, about ten thousand of them. So here was an opportunity to find someone compatible with me for marriage relationship.

My wife on the other hand was still young and in school. Marriage was nowhere near her dreams.

When we met, there was instant attraction. I concluded right there and then she was the perfect woman for me. But I didn't tell her so.

On her side of the spectrum, she was happy to meet an interesting brother who would make a great friend. She was still young. Her whole life was ahead of her. Marriage wasn't a burning issue . . . at least not yet.

Is your new found love compatible with you?

You cannot correctly decide that on your first meeting. Hence, you need to interact some more.

Compatibility tests essentially involves comparing your likes and dislikes with those of your man to determine if there is a meeting point . . . to determine if you are compatible.

Compatibility tests are absolutely important for any love relationship.

When you and your man come together, when you fall accidentally in love or through planned meeting, you are just two different people who have taken an interest in each other.

. . . and you are both different in several more ways I can't figure out here.

However, the two of you in the relationship know exactly where you are different.

Can you be happily in love despite the fact that you fell accidentally in love?

Oh, yes you can.

Will the two of you remain forever in love and build a happy, united family?

I don't know. Only you can answer that question.

should you go ahead with the love relationship? Will it work?

Now, let him hit you with all his likes and dislikes.

Ask him to take you to his favorite spots. Visit his friends in his company. Try to live with all the little things in his life that matters and those that seems for now not to matter.

Are you appalled at the kind of life he lives? Did you recoil in shame, pity, or anger?

When you finally get married, you are going to live with all the good things and the bad things that are uniquely his. Can you live with all of the bullshit that he loves for all of your life?

If you cannot, please re-consider the worth of the relationship.

Yes, you can fall accidentally in love. The truth is most people actually fall accidentally in love.

But after the accident, analyze your love realistically.

If you marry the wrong guy, your life will be a mess. Therefore, marry him only if your compatibility tests reveal you can work together to build a happy family.

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