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All I Want To Really Do Is Kiss Him

Ok, well I've been friends with this guy since the first grade and now that we are getting older I'm starting to think maybe we should be more than just friends.

But I don't want to risk our friendship. All I want to really do is kiss him and maybe I think I could get something out of that.

Well I don't know if I should share this with you. But anyway I have dreams that I do do that and we have something great.

But then other times it's the opposite and sometimes it's just kind of weird.

I'm sorry if this a waste of your time but I really really want to know what to do.

Should I just kiss him and see what happens or tell him or just ignore it to save the relationship?

My Reply

You've been friends with this guy for several years. Obviously, your friendship with him have been rewarding otherwise you wouldn't think of going beyond just being friends.

Okay, so this guy is a great guy. Cool.

But how do you get it across to him that you love him and want your relationship to grow from just being friends to a love relationship?

Your plan is to kiss him and see if you can get something out of that. Is that the road to finding true love? Will you win his heart that way?

I doubt if you will.

You must understand that love is a deep-seated emotion . . . something deep inside of you . . . something deep inside of him.

A kiss from a girl cannot make a man fall in love with her. Specifically, kissing this guy wouldn't make him fall in love with you.

If you kiss him, it's simply a show of your affection for him.

If he doesn't share your enthusiasm for a love relationship, if all he wants is just friendship and nothing more, he will wonder what he did or said to invoke that kind of affection in you.

If he's a genuine friend who simply wants to be a friend, he may back away and give you some space to enable you get over your crush.

At best, a kiss will flatter him. It won't make him fall in love with you if he hasn't already done so.

Consider this: In your years together, has he done anything or said anything to give you the impression that he wants to be more than just your friend?

True, friendship can mature into a love relationship and eventually, marriage. But that's not always the case.

Many folks start as friends right from childhood and remain friends for life.

So, what should you do?

Giving this guy a passionate kiss won't make him love you. At worse, it may cheapen you. At best, it may tease him.

At the other extreme, your kiss could initiate strong emotions that could eventually lead to necking, petting, and the start of a sexual relationship that will lead nowhere good.

So, how do you make him yours for life?

The honest truth is . . . you can't if you don't fit his profile of a lover.

What does that mean?

Men grow up with a clear picture in their mind of the kind of woman they want to marry and spend their life with. Women are no different.

When a man meets a woman that matches his dreams . . . the perfect girl, the woman of his dreams . . . he falls in love instantly.

If he meets a woman that doesn't fit his profile of his ideal woman, he makes her a friend.

However, there are exceptions . . . as with everything in life.

In some cases, a woman that initially did not fit a certain man's profile can suddenly become his preferred woman when circumstances change.

Unfortunately, this doesn't happen often.

Here's a question for you . . .

Do you know the profile of the kind of woman this guy wants to spend his life with? Do you fit his idea of the ideal woman?

How would you know?

Well, ask him.

How?

Start a natural conversation about happy couples you have met, the striking difference between the man and his wife and how close-knit they are despite their differences.

Ask him what he thinks makes a couple truly happy? Wait for a reply.

Then ask him how these couples meet. How does a man meet his wife? How does a guy know the woman made just for him when he sees her?

Wait for his explanation.

Then ask him, "How would you know when you meet the perfect woman for you?"

Let him explain.

Next, ask him what he desires in a woman. What would make a woman right in his eyes? What does he look for anyway?

Remember this is a natural discussion of love relationships between two friends. Don't be pushy. Just discuss this the same way you've discussed other issues in the past.

Now, what did you learn from your discussion with him? What does he want from the woman of his dreams? Do you fit his profile of the ideal woman?

If you know what he desires, perhaps you can slowly and cautiously work your way into his heart.

It is great when your friend can become your lover because you will have less problems in the love relationship.

Bottom line.

Don't make yourself look cheap in his eyes with a premature kiss.

Instead, strive to win his heart, his love, his everything.

Love is the greatest. You can find it.

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