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Big Girl - You're No Longer A Small Girl

You're now a big girl. You have come of age. You're the toast of your neighborhood and your school.

You're no longer that small girl that gets pushed around. You're now an adult. You want to date. You want to fall in love. You want freedom. You want independence.

Cool.

But are you ready? Do you have what it takes?

Wait a minute. What does it take?

It takes maturity.

Naturally, parents like to keep a watchful eye on their kids. You have no reason to worry about that because they do it for your own good.

Your parents know the consequences of getting into trouble or doing something crazy. They were once kids, remember?

Yes, they know what can hurt you. It doesn't matter that you're a big girl or a small girl. Everything has a reward. Good or bad, you will get the reward for your actions.

Your parents want you to have a successful life. They want you to have a successful love relationship when you become a grown woman. They know there are things you will do now that can hurt your future, so they place restrictions on you to keep you from the wicked path.

It's true they can get overly protective at times and seem to lock you in. But please understand that they really do love you.

However, if you feel you're now a big girl . . . if you feel you're old enough to get some more freedom, do not become unruly to press your point home.

Simply prove that you're no longer a small girl. Prove that you're old enough to take more responsibility. And you'll get more responsibility.

Take an example.

Patricia often got her mom to part with her car whenever she needed it. All she has to do is ask. But her elder sister Vicky wasn't that lucky.

Whenever she asked for the car, her mom was sure to turn her down with some excuse.

Vicky felt she was unfairly treated and voiced her displeasure. Her mother told her point blank why she preferred to give the car to Patricia, her younger sister, and not her.

In her moms opinion, Vicky was a big girl while Patricia was a small girl. But Patricia got the car because she was more mature in behavior.

Vicky often drove the car recklessly. Whenever she returned, something gets broken. On the other hand, Patricia handled the car with some respect and often brought it back neater than when she took it.

Now think. Who really was the big girl and who was the small girl?

Get this clear.

It's not about your age. It's not about your size. It's about your attitude. It's about the things you do and how you react to situations.

For example, suppose your parents allow you to date because you're now a big girl. You go out on an evening date with your boyfriend.

You told your parents you want to see a movie together. And sure you did. But after the movie, your boyfriend insists you spend more time together.

You change plans and attend his friend's hang out party. By the time you return home, it's close to midnight. Your parents are furious.

Your parents know what happens when a girl stays out late alonewith a boy. They know what can happen when you don't stick to plan. And they know enough about all-teen-late-parties to know it's dangerous.

They reasoned you're a big girl (no longer that whipping small girl) and gave you more freedom. But you blew it.

Want more freedom? Show your folks you can manage freedom.

Freedom is a relative term.

Anything that lands you in trouble ultimately takes away your freedom

Get real.

You're a big girl now, huh?

Prove it. Behave like a big girl. Stop doing the immature stuff that a small girl does.

Your parents will treat you right. And your future love relationships will be secure.

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