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Black Girl or White Girl? American Girl or Asian?

Black girl or white girl - who fits you the most?

Maybe an Asian girl or American girl will make you a happier man. Or perhaps a Canadian girl or a Mexican girl. Who knows?

You alone can say for sure if you want an American girl, a Filipino, a Briton, a Jew, an African, a black girl or any girl for that matter. In any case, does it really matter what country a girl is from? Does it matter what her color is?

I'm married to a white girl. Sorry, a light-complexioned woman.

I'm dark in complexion. I grew up liking and loving light-complexioned people. I don't exactly know why. I suppose it's because I'm dark.

Fortunately, as fate would have it, virtually all my friends were dark in complexion or outright black.

Another thing, I was color blind. I still am. Probably because of my religion.

My faith accepts and treat all as equal irrespective of nationality, language, or color. I grew up believing that. I still strongly believe that.

Consequently, I treat people equally . . . male or female, black or white, educated or illiterate, smart or stupid.

It pays to give people benefit of the doubt. Let each one prove what she is, what she's worth. And judge them by their actions not their color or nationality. I do just that. You should too.

However, when it came to picking a wife, I didn't want a black girl as wife. I wanted my wife to be a white girl, to be light in complexion. The reason?

I just wanted my wife to be light-complexioned (among other things) without knowing why

I wanted my dark color to blend with a light color, my wife's, to produce an exciting blend in my kids

Stupid way to think, right?

On the other hand, I had a dark complexioned male friend who had a passionate dislike for a white girl as wife. He was determined to marry a black girl . . . and he did.

He was black. His wife was twice as black . . . a black girl in the accepted sense of the word.

How does this all relate to you?

The truth is . . . it's your choice, it's your life.

If your cherished dream is to get married to a black girl, by all means go ahead. If on the other hand your dream is to marry a white girl, or an American girl, or an Asian girl . . . do what suits you.

It's your life. It's your happiness that counts.

However, I must make this point . . . and strongly too.

While it's okay to marry a girl with the complexion you're comfortable

with, color or complexion should not be the prime factor to consider.

Simply put . . . the priority should not be that the girl must be a black girl, a white girl, an American girl, an Asian girl, a Canadian girl etc. The priority, besides the color that matters to you, should be . . .

Her attitude. Attitude determines altitude.

Her character set. This determines if she will fit in with your lifestyle.

Her beliefs. Beliefs and religion can tear your relationship apart if they are at extremes.

Her passion. What drives her. If love of money drives her and simplicity drives you, you won't last long together.

Her spirituality. Love of God and love of neighbor. Her concern for people and you.

I could go on all day about behavior sets and attitudes that make relationships last.

However, I've discussed this before somewhere. For details checkout these articles on personality tests and perfect girl.

Remember that this girl, this woman, will eventually become your wife. If she does become your wife, you will live with her complexion everyday of your life.

If you desire a different complexion in your wife, you will always feel a sense of dissatisfaction whenever you think of it especially if there was someone who had what you wanted but who was out of reach.

Honestly, complexion issues are relatively minor issues when discussing factors that lead to successful relationships. Having said that, it must be noted that we are not all the same in many respect.

So, if compexion is a big issue with you . . . if you prefer a black girl to a white girl, or vice versa, (or an American girl to a Briton), go for the complexion that makes you happy. Afterall, you're the one who's going to share the same roof with this girl not your parents or your friends.

Please note this.

It's unlikely that you will find a woman who meets your criteria in every single conceivable area. You will have to make some compromises.

Nevertheless, do not compromise things that are very important to you. Not even if it is as minor as the complexion question.

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