A Broken Heart May Be A
Blessing In Disguise

A broken heart can be devastating. All your dreams come crashing down on you. You may feel like dying.

However, a broken heart may be a blessing in disguise. Here's how it happens. You meet a man someplace somehow. You take a liking to him. He smiles at you. You smile back. You start a conversation. You find him interesting. You discover you have a lot in common. You exchange addresses and phone numbers.

You start seeing each other frequently. You are enthused. You feel somewhat special when he's around. You miss him when he's gone.

You fall in love neck deep.

You love him. He says he loves you too. He asks you to marry him. You agree. Things move really well between you. All is fine. You invest your whole soul, mind and heart in the relationship. Nothing matters but your man.

Suddenly, he calls off the relationship for no sane reason.

Why is he doing this to you? Why is he leaving you? What did you do wrong?

You don't get any concrete answers from him. He simply does not want the relationship anymore.

This breaks your heart. Years after, you're still nursing your broken heart.

This is usually the story of women with broken heart.

There may be slight variations but the story is basically the same.

He comes into your life. You're all excited and happy you have found the ideal man. He raises your hopes. You give him everything you have and more. Then he leaves for another woman for no valid reason.

You've just be ditched.

It happens all the time. And there are men who do this as a game.

They put up a pretense of being in love, get what they want from you, and then move on to the next victim.

You are then left to deal with a broken heart.

My advice to you is this . . . be happy. Celebrate your freedom. Your broken heart may just be a blessing in disguise.

Let me explain.

A man who starts a relationship and then jump ship do so because . . .

He is a professional flirt and is in for a one night stand or He is in the relationship to get something from you. Once he gets what he came for he disappears or He is afraid of commitment. When it gets to the commitment part he develops cold feet and escapes or He has roving eyes. He can't take his eyes off other women. So the thought of being 'stuck' with just you in a marriage relationship frightens him. Whatever the case, a man who jumps ship is not the kind of man you want to be married to.

If a man is not trustworthy and loyal, he will betray your trust eventually . . . even if you are married with kids.

Consider this real life example.

Jane had been married to Jeff for several years. They had two kids, five and three years old respectively. All was well, or so she thought.

One afternoon, Jeff called Jane and said, "I'm leaving".

That was all. At first it sounded like a joke. But he was dead serious.

Why was he leaving?

He was tired of the relationship.

There was no previous quarrel, no previous strain in the relationship. He just was tired of seeing her face.

So Jeff left his wife and two kids for another woman. Now Jane is a single parent with two kids to care for on her own.

If you ask her, she probably will tell you she would have been happier if he had left her during the courtship period.

Yes, your broken heart may hurt you. But it will hurt more if your man had got married to you and then abandaned you in the middle of a pregnancy or ill-health.

Understand this.

Some relationships are just not worth the investment.

If you suffer from a broken heart, take solace in the fact that you're damn lucky. The man you were staking your life and happiness with was the wrong man for you.

It's a good thing he left.

Now you have the experience to evaluate your suitors better and get a man who knows what it means to love . . . a man who values family, who values you.

Sorry about your broken heart.

But the truth is . . . he doesn't deserve to have your love.

The man just right for you is waiting. He is waiting and searching. And believe me, he is just around the corner.

Wipe your tears. You are on the verge of finding true love.

One last thing.

Don't rush into a relationship the way you did the last time.

Analyze potential suitors with the love tests, personality tests, and the love quiz on this site. Also sign up for my monthly newsletter . . . True Love Advisor . . . for tips to help you find and keep true love.

Love is on its way. Just be patient.

A breakup can be devastating. Your world comes crashing down.

However, life goes on.

What is your best tip for surviving a breakup?

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