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True Love Advisor Newsletter, March 2008Commitment Phobia - Overcoming Fear of The UnknownCommitment phobia is the leading cause of men not taking a love relatonship to the next level.
She's excited. She has eventually found 'Mr Perfect'. She has found her true match. She's ready to commit. But she wants him to pop the million dollar question. She waits and waits but nothing happens. He enjoys being with her and shares a huge part of his life with her. What's stopping him from sealing the deal by making a heartfelt commitment to love her and be with her forever? She can't understand it. So, she takes a bold step and tells him how she feels about the relationship. "I love you, Kenny. And I know you love me too. Let's make this permanent. You and I living in each other's arms forever".
First, many men tend to build love relationships that they hope they will drop when they meet the woman that meets their dream of their true partner. Here's what happens. The man has a mental picture of the woman he wants to marry. She should be tall, light-complexioned, elegant, smart, intelligent, attractive, have good sense of humour, a university graduate, and an employed woman with good pay. Sometime later he meets Brenda. Brenda is smart, intelligent, attractive, and tall. She has an amazing sense of humour, a perfect set of teeth, and a laugh that will make any man stir in wonder. Unfortunately, she is dark. In fact, very dark in complexion. Additionally, she is not a university gaduate although she has a fairly good salary from her day job. Her attractiveness coupled with her intriguing sense of humour completely swept our man off his feet. He spoke with her and she bought into him. And the love relationship got to a flying start. The times our man spent with Brenda were the most exciting and eventful part of his life. Everything was fine until Brenda asked about the future of the relationship. That question froze his thoughts. The above is a common tale. One of the things responsible for it is this feeling of "I am yet to meet the perfect woman for me. If I get engaged now, I will be stuck and unable to capture the heart of the perfect woman for me when she comes". This is called the Perfection Syndrome. The belief that there is one perfect woman for you and he's out there somewhere. Unfortunately, that 'perfect woman' may be a creation of the imperfection in the man's brain. A second reason for commitment phobia is the individual's personal experience. If a man grew up in an environment where divorce was prevalent, he may have seen many love relationships start out well with the couples involved madly in love. But then after a few years, they were in court tearing each other to pieces in a fierce divorce case. A third reason may be an exaggerated view of the responsibilities of husbandhood by the individual. He may worry only about the challenges of marriage without giving thought to the blessings associated with being a husband and father. Such unbalanced view of marriage can make a man terribly afraid of commitment to a love relationship. What can you do if your man is in the grip of commitment phobia. You can . . . If you truly love your man, you will want to stick with him and help him understand that marriage is not all bad. Yes, marriage is challenging. But it is also rewarding. Help him get that commitment phobia out of the way! I wish you success. P.S. Thinking of starting a home business of your own? Get solid advice at the Home Based Business For Small Business site Here I provide down-to-earth advice for starting and running any home based internet business and, indeed, any kind of small business. You can also subscribe to the Internet Business Advisor my monthly home business newsletter.
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