Confused about my boyfriend!

by Sarah
(Denver)

I have met my boyfriend at my aunts wedding, he was sitting behind me at another table. So when he saw me he asked if I could give him my phone number and at first I didn't want to, but he kept going at it and I ended up giving my number to him.

So the next day he called me and told me how happy he was that I gave him my number, and so three weeks go by talking on the phone and I began liking him, and he asked if I we could meet up and I was like I am actually busy with school and work and he was being patient with me and then he asked me again the following week and I was like ok.

So I said to him that we will meet up that Sunday, and he said ok and out of the blue he calls me Sunday morning around 4:45 am and of course he wakes me up from my beautiful sleep, and he says to me if I could come over to his place and I said this early I can't but I will come over in a couple of hours.

So at 8:00am I leave to go over to his place and when I get there he seduced me and I ended up having sex with him, which is terrible and I know that was a really bad thing to do.

So beacuse I was so ashamed about what I did, I ignored his phone calls the next day and sent him a text stating that I wasn't ready for a relationship and he called back and was confused he said "men, was my sex that bad"?

So I explained to him just because you had sex with me on the first date doesn't exactly mean that you sleep around. He said infact I respect you more because you did that for me, and of course we got back together and so that following week I go over to his place and watched a movie together and no sex this time and he didn't pressure me. So we made Sunday our day to spend together.

Long story short everytime we met we would have sex. So 4 months go bye and he forgets to call on my birthday and uses this as an excuse he says to me "the reason why I didn't call you on your birthday was the fact that you told me that you were going to spend that day hanging out with your friends so I didn't wont to bother you", and I was like ok!

So that week I meet up with him and he gets me nothing for my birthday, not even a birthday card for goodness sake!

So I left his place early and told him that I was meeting up with my friends and he was like oh ok have fun.

I was fed up with the relationship and so I ignored him for two week's, and he kept calling and leaving messages on my phone,and I said it's probably better if I tell it's over than just having to ignore him, so I call him and tell him that it's over that I am not ready for a relationship, and he says

"What do you mean? I don't understand. I love you, but if that's what you want to do then I have no choice to respect the decision that you have come up with.

so from there he says, can we still be friends and said ok, but I don't think it's a good idea, and he says why?

So he says you know I will call you tomorrow and he ends up calling me the next day, and says I keep trying to tell my self to move on but, I can't stop from calling you, I love you, and I said to him the reason why i am ending our relationship is because I am starting to have strong feelings toward you and I just don't want to get hurt.

He replies by saying I am confused isn't a relationship supposed to be like that?

So now I don't know what to do, should I forget about this guy or continue to date him?

I feel that the only reason he wants to be with me is for sex. Is he playing me just for the time being?

Please help!!!!