Dealing with my Ex...

by Kate
(US)

About a year ago, I broke up with my ex of almost 5 years. I was depressed and thought that it would be best if we split up.

I was 19 and just had a baby. He is alot older than me and was very happy that we had a child!

A couple months passed and i was feeling very depressed and i just felt like i didnt want to be with him anymore.

After the break up, i still continued to sleep with him for a couple of months, because I wasnt sure if i wanted to move on. Like I said I was depressed and very confused.

About 3 months later, I had met another man, and started a relationship with him, thinking that I was completely over my ex. And for a while I was very happy!

I was with someone that was my age and shared alot of similar interests. But my ex kept contacting me about getting back together, and i broke down.

I felt horrible for him, and thought that I had made a huge mistake, but wasnt ready to give up the happiness i had with my current fling.

I never told my ex how I felt, I dont know why, but I kept to myself and dealt with the hurt. About 7 months after the break up my ex had started dating someone that he had met online.

It was then when i realized or thought that I wanted to be with him again. I had feelings for him months before but never told him. So after I found out he was dating, I started doing the same things he did, I was calling him and texting him about getting back together.

He would say things to me that would make me think we were getting back together, but it never happened. I even tried breaking up with my current boyfriend b/c I thought that my ex is who I wanted.

But my current b/f thought that I was going through a phase and wanted to work it out with me. I stopped the calls and texts to my ex but I still wanted to be friends. (He was very rude and ignorant to me in this whole process. When he was hurting and texting me I was never rude or mean to him. I was comforting and caring.)

So after dating her for about 4 months he moves in with her in another city.

He doesnt really know her and he already moved in wow. but besides that he's still very rude to me when I contact him about our daughter or anything that has to do with her.

He's always telling me how happy he is in his new relationship and blah blah blah. But he still acts so negative towards me and its very hard to deal with. He treats me like Im some crazy person that wont leave him alone.

That might have been true 5 months ago, but I gave up and let go. Talking to him about my daughter is a challenge but I cant understand why. We've both moved on. We're happy.

So why does he find the need to still be a complete ass?

Im sorry this is so long, but I wanted to get all the details in here so nobody gets the wrong idea.

I was not trying to hurt anyone through this process, and I know that I did, but it was truly not my intention. Ive tried ignoring his calls and stop calling him, but thats almost impossible when we have a child.

Any advice on dealing with my ex in a better way? Or advice on why he still acts this way towards me?