Does He Really Want To Just Be My Friend or Does He Want Something Else?

I am 17.

I was at a party and my cousin's friend (20 years old) whom I did not know until then began a conversation with me. He seemed pretty nice and I did not think anything about our conversation.

My Reply

It's possible that he simply wants to be your friend.

He may have enjoyed talking to you. He may have enjoyed your company so much that he wants to see you again and talk.

If you enjoy being with someone, it's natural to want to sustain the relationship and grow it into a blossoming friendship.

But wait.

Is it just friendship that he wants or does he want something else?

I can tell you that for sure because I don't know him. Even you cannot conclude correctly at this moment what his true motives are.

The heart of man is deep. He can tell you one thing whereas what he wants is something different.

Consequently, it's best to judge people by their actions and not simply by their words. Words can be deceptive.

However, you must also understand this.

Some love relationships start as friendships. Then over time, they metamorphose to love.

So, even if he wants just your friendship now, it may not always remain so.

You know the way it is.

When a girl and a boy are always together, eventually something moves inside of them. And suddenly, the friendship can develop into something deeper.

Yes, friendship between a boy and a girl can remain just friendship for life. But it can also grow into love.

Interestingly, I told my wife just that when I first met her. I said I wanted us to be friends. Just two weeks later, I changed gear and asked her to be my wife.

Read my story at . . . Girl Love

Is there something wrong with two friends falling in love and starting a love relationship that graduates into marriage? I guess not.

But suppose he's offer of friendship is just to lure you into some seductive agenda. How would you know?

Read this article on the art of seduction. The Art of Seduction

The article referenced above shows you how to figure out the direction your relationship with a man is going and what you can do about it.

If you agree to start a friendship with him and you discover later that he's genuinely interested in a love relationship down the road . . . if he makes a u-turn and tells you "I think I love you" . . . use the information in the two articles below. I Think I Love You

Let Me Love You

Let me love you

Bottom line.

If he's a really nice guy, and you like him and enjoy his company, there's nothing stopping you from becoming his friend.

If he changes gear and shows features of a player or someone serious about a love relationship, use the information in the links above.

Friendship is great if it's with the right kind of man.

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