Emotional Roller Coaster - Should I Get Off Or Stick It Out?

by Nina
(PA)

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I love him and I know he loves me. We get along great.

I feel as though he completes me and he has told me the same thing. I do believe that he is the man for me.

I have 2 sons who adore him and he has a daughter that lives in the Dominican Rep.

Here's the problem.

A couple of months after we met he started getting letters saying that he had to go back to Iraq. He was told was out, but they were still saying he had to go back.

This troubled him a lot and put a lot of stress on the relationship.

He suffers from PTSD. Sometimes he has trouble sleeping, has horrible dreams, etc. He sometimes gets very moody and distant because of this.

Anyway, he wound up pushing me away because of it, and we broke up. I was hurt because we were talking about getting married and at the time we thought I was pregnant.

Even though we were "broken up" he still would come over and we acted like we were still together.

Finally i had enough and told him if we were going to be together then fine, but if not then I wasn't going to act like we were. So i stopped all contact and we didnt talk for 3 looooooooong months.

Then he sent me an email and we started talking again. He got things taken care of regarding him going back to Iraq. He told me how much of a mistake he made and how much he loves me and missed me.

We got back together and everything is good. Were talking about moving to North Carolina. Now 2 months later he has decided that he wants to get custody of his daughter (I support that) and he may be moving down to the Dominican Rep. and when I asked him where do I fit in he said he wasn't sure of what he was going to do, but he does love me and want me in his life.

He hasn't said anything about me coming with him, if this does happen. He just said he was sorry that he was hurting me.

I love this man, but I'm just not sure what to do. I'm tired of the back and forth. Does he really want to be with me?

(Oh and he's not going down there for his daughter's mom because she lives in NY and travels with her job, and they don't get along.)

Sorry it's so long.

Any advice?????