Father Daughter Love
Father daughter love is an unhealthy display of romantic affection between a father and his daughter. The father daughter love relationship puts the marriage at great risk.
Suddenly, the mother discovers to her disappointment that her daughter has become her number one competitor. Can you imagine how disheartening this can be?
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This has happened before. It has happened many more times than you think. And it will happen again . . . and again.
The reported cases are few because the situation is so embarrassing to talk about that families prefer not to wash their dirty linen in public.
Father daughter love relationship often gets reported during divorce proceedings when the wife desperately seeks to win the case by showcasing the unsavory behavior of her husband.
Or . . .
When a pregnancy results.
It's pathetic for a father to have sexual inclinations for his own daughter. Sad to say, it happens. There are even cases where fathers have sexual attraction to their own sons, sexually molesting the boys in a gay relationship.
A mother on a live TV talk show, shocked the world when she told viewers in vivid terms how her husband sexually molested her boys. The boys too were on hand to tell the ugly story.
No mother will be pleased to be associated with such a father.
While father son love relationship does happen, reports show that father daughter love relationship is by father the most common. And that is the subject of this article.
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Yes, father daughter love is real. It happens. It can happen to anyone. It can happen to you.
Now the big question. What can you do to avoid this?
Your daughter will love your husband more than she loves you. That is a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.
Daughters are naturally more attached to their father than their mother. Similarly, boys are often more attached to their mother than their father.
It's a natural thing. In physics it is said that unlike poles attract. With respect to humans, members of opposite sex attract each other. So, your daughters will be attracted to their father and your sons are also more likely to be attracted to you.
There is nothing wrong with this attachment between a father and his daughter. Something is wrong when this attraction grows from just the natural attachment between a father and his daughter to something sinister.
Something is absolutely wrong when a father and his daughter starts to have sexual feelings toward each other. When the boundary of sanity is broken, it's only a matter of time before they actually have sexual intercourse.
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What can a mother do to prevent a drift to the unnatural?
Step 1 - Take control from the very beginning
Children tend to spend more time with mothers than fathers. Make good you of that time. Teach your children what love means. Teach them what boundaries must exist between members of the opposite sex. And show them what happens when someone breaks the rules.
Where do you get examples of the bad result of breaking the rules of morality?
TV talk shows and reality TV shows feature real life stories - the good, the bad, the ugly. Children will watch TV and see bad stuff whether you prohibit it or not. And they will imbibe the wrong message.
Use talk shows and reality TV to teach the right message. And teach them repeatedly and consistently so it sticks. Make sure they get the sense of it.
Remember . . . start early. Teach them from infancy. Children are never too small to learn.
Step 2 - Establish boundaries
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Establish rules for the family and ensure they are followed.Bed time ruleTV time ruleStudy time ruleFriends ruleOut of bound areas (these areas belong only to mom and dad)
Father daughter love relationship is a complex thing. No one knows for sure at what exact time and what exact ingredients fuel a father daughter love.
However, taking the right precautions and keeping a watchful eye on your daughter's growth and development can help prevent a tragic occurrence.
Above all, love your husband. Show him affection. Talk to him. Listen to him talk. Let him make you his confidant and best friend. That way, he wouldn't seek friendship somewhere else.
If you do otherwise, your husband may seek for acceptance and friendship with his daughter. That friendship will grow over time. The final result?
Unbridled attachment and . . . father daughter love.
Love your husband. Stick with him. If you don't, you leave room for your daughter to take over. If it doesn't happen with your daughter, it will happen with another woman.
Father daughter love is a family tragedy. Don't let it happen to you.
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