Fell out of love with me after 7 great years of dating

by Mortadella
(USA)

Me and my now ex boyfriend had been dating for 7 years. We lived together for 5 years. We constantly talked about getting married and who would be in our wedding party and so on.

We would talk about how we both couldnt wait to have a baby together. He was in no rush to get married and i would've waited forever for him.

1 year into our relationship, his father passed away with my boyfriend at his side. This was a very hard time for him he wouldnt speak to anyone for months including me.... four months ago was the anniversary of his fathers death and i knew he was very stressed out.

2 days later he announces to me that he's moving out! I was shocked i went completely balistic on him.

He would not gimme an answer why?

2 days later a moving van pulled up and took everything that was his and he never contacted me for a month. When i talked to him, all he would say is i do miss u trust, i do want you i just cant. And thats all i heard from him until 4 months later.

so i decided to call him myself and he actually answered. He rudely let me know that 'its been 4 months already its time for u to move on" how can i do that when i dont even know what has happened to us.

UM hello we loved each other for 7 yrs and had our life planned together and now all of a sudden he doesnt have feelings for me.

Even after his own friends have told me that he still loves me he denies it. I cant just move on when nothing happened to make him want to leave.

I actually love him MORE now that hes gone, i hate this. How can he have no feeling for me alll of a sudden????

Everyone Swears he's not cheating. And all I can think of is maybe he had a breakdown, but to this extent????

If anyone has an opinion pleease share them, im so desperate for him to love me again!

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

It's difficult to tell what actually happened if there is no clue that something actually went wrong.

For example, is he dating another girl? Has he fallen into deep depression? Is he still social or withdrawn from society due to the loss of his dad?

Love means that the parties involved can talk to each other freely and share problems when they arise.

He has pushed you away and he keeps pushing you away. Perhaps his love has waned. Perhaps he's overwhelmed by life's challenges.

However, if you keep pushing and pushing, it may become embarrassing and he may go as far as getting a restraining order on you.

Let's face it.

It's tough to suddenly be abandoned by someone you've loved for 7yrs and for no stated reason.

Nevertheless, if you refuse to let go after trying to work things out, it can getting even more depressing. And that could ruin your joy, your happiness, your life.

He wants you to stay away?

Perhaps you should, at least for several months. Then try again.

Hopefully you can get some more insight into why he decided to leave and get some calmness of spirit.

What if he never comes around after you try and try?

Then you have to let him go. It's painful but that's the reality of the situation.

Funny enough, someone even more loving may come along when you finally allow yourself to love again.