He Avoids Having Sex With Me. I don't know what's wrong with him.

by Scarlett
(Trenton, NJ, USA)

I have known this guy for 5-6 years and from the very beginning of our friendship, I have been very into him.

Over the years, inspite of the fact that we can't get together regularly, my feelings towards him turned into passion. He knows how much I love him and I care for him, yet he keeps cool and he stays away from me.

I am not considered as an average girl within my friends; I mean I am usually described with words like beautiful, seductive, sexy...etc.

Whenever we get close to each other he avoids having sex with me. It is quite strange because he hardly undresses himself.

Once I was totally naked and he just let me take off his tee. I don't know what's wrong with him but are these signs of an homosexual man?

Please help me!

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

There were times when being a virgin was celebrated. Parents threw a big party and felt proud when their daughters got married as a virgins.

People still value virginity.

So, when you are quick to unaddress or are very keen to go to bed with a guy to whom you are not married, it says a lot about you.

A disciplined and morally upright man will probably wonder how many men you have slept with before him. He will wonder if this is your routine self. And he will be appalled that you have no self control.

If your man is serious about marrying a decent girl, your "let's have sex" behaviour will disturb him. And that can hinder the progress of your love relationship.

Love relationship isn't about sex. It's about companionship, friendship, and love. And love is not the same thing as sex.

In simple words . . .

There may be nothing wrong with your man. He may just be disturbed about your passion for sex before marriage.

My advice?

Take it slow. Enjoy his friendship.

Keep your pants on and your skirts zipped properly. Dress smartly but decently.

You don't need a mini-skirt split almost to your pants to win the right guy. You don't need to wear tops that expose the top of your breast to win.

You don't need to expose your body in any way to make him fall in love with you or need you. That strategy focuses on the physical body, which is transient attraction.

Instead, focus on your personality.

Show that you are a woman of class and dignity. Reserve sex for your wedding day and beyond.

Guess what.

He may begin to take you seriously and fall in love with you all over again.