He Cannot Say What He Feels To Me Directly

Hello.

I would just want to ask . . .

There's this boy he's been loving a girl but they seem to be impossible to be because the girl does not like him.

Then we met. I think I love him. And people say that it's obvious that he likes me too. If so, why can't he tell me? He can easily say this to other girls but he cannot say what he feels to me directly. He's showing off signs but I don't know what to do. Should I wait or what????

My Reply

I'm glad to hear you found someone you love. It's so sweet to be in love.

You say it's obvious that he likes you . . . at least people tell you that. And you have reason to believe them because he shows signs that suggest so.

The sad part is that he has not told you himself he loves you.

Is it that he simply likes you as a person or that he truly loves you?

If you're not sure what the difference is, read this article . . .

what is love?

Likeness is something you feel for someone who displays admirable qualities. You admire the person. You're impressed with the person's attitude, behavior, or disposition.

Love is deeper.

When you love someone, you desire to live the rest of your life with that person. You don't ever want to leave his side.

When you're in love, you bubble with excitement. Your lover's presence turns you on and gets you giggling in an incredibly unexplainable manner.

Simply put . . . it's difficult to hide it when you're in love.

If your man is in love with you, he can't help telling you about it. The only exception is if your man is shy or afraid of rejection.

In this case, he may postpone telling you for fear of losing your friendship if you don't feel as strongly about him as he feels about you.

However, from your letter above, your man doesn't strike me as shy or afraid of rejection.

You said he easily says this to other girls. That suggest that he is not a shy person.

Wait.

How come he openly tells other girls he loves them and at the same time shows you signs that he may be interested in you too?

Is he a flirt? Is he a heartbreaker? Is he a player? Does the term, 'I love you' mean much to him?

Love is wonderful. But love with a player is disastrous.

Be sure he's a man who is committed to one woman and not a player before you stake your heart, your love, and your future on him. Should you wait or tell him you love him? Remember that many boys see girls who ask them out or declare their love first as 'cheap' or 'easy catch'.

Don't bring yourself that low.

Getting hooked is fun when the guy has to plead to win your love. It's old- fashioned but it still gives the girl more credibility.

My advice?

Wait a little longer and study him more.

He has not told you he loves you. The signs you see him display are just signs. They may mean nothing.

You're already in love with him. So, even innocent, well-intentioned words or gestures can be read by you as meaning he's interested in you.

It's true . . . people in love can tend to be blind, irrational, and even dead stupid.

Right now, your sense of judgment is impaired by your feelings for him.

Want to be sure what his true intentions are?

Ask him what he's up to. Ask him what he wants with you. Ask him why he's playing games with you.

Most times a straightforward talk can spill the truth.

Whatever you do, don't color the discussion with, 'I love you'.

Let him be the one to start the discussion in that direction. Just help him get started with a straightforward, down-to-earth, no bullshit discussion of your relationship.

If he loves you, you will see it. If he's simply playing games with you, it will show and you will see it if you look hard enough.

I wish you true love and happiness.

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