He Has A Girlfriend But He Is Flirting With Me. And I Have Undying Feelings For Him.

by lindsay
(ohio)

there is this guy that i have known and been in love with since seventh grade but he was dating my best friend so i couldnt do anything. Then they broke up and he moved away.

I thought i had gotten over him but then after six years he randomly messages me online and all those feelings come rushing back when we hang out.

He didnt tell me he had a girlfriend until after we had hung out. Since i had seen him last i've had a kid and he doesnt seem to care because him and his girlfriend were pregnant but she lost the baby.

Now i found out hes coming back out here and his girlfriend is coming and i dont want to meet her for fear of her being prettier and losing my confidence.

I cant seem to shake the feelings i have for him and he flirts with me all the time and is always sending me signals and i dont know what to do.

should i just stop talking to him or should i stick around incase something happens?

Please help me my heart is breaking.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

This happens all the time.

A guy has a girlfriend and he's trying out other girls to see how they fit.

Think about it with your rationale mind for a moment.

This guy has just lost a baby with another girl and they are still together. Shouldn't he be spending more time with his girl during this difficult moment?

I have a feeling you have never lost a pregnancy. So you may not know how it feels.

For your knowledge, it's devastating to lose a baby. And many women never get over it even after they have several other kids.

So the least this guy can do for the girlfriend he claims to love is to be there for her every spare time he has.

If he is spending time with you, he's cheating on her.

It feels cool to have a guy chasing you, right? Makes you feel kind of important.

But what's fair is fair. What is right is right. What is wrong is wrong.

Tell this flirty man to go mind his grilfriend.

Important: If he can do this to his grilfriend, what will he do to you in your difficult moments if his relationship with this other girl does not work out and he ends up hooking up with you?

Give that some serious thought.

An unfaithful flirt is not the kind of guy you want to hook up with. Not after one relationship that produced a kid with an absent father.

Trust me, you don't need another kid with another absent father!

Believe me, flirty guys are always absent when you need them most because flirting consumes time.

My advice?

Look for a guy who is not attcahed to anyone . . . someone who will devote his entire time to you. You deserve to be the queen, the only queen in a guy's life.