He Sits With Me Most Of The Time

I have a friend at my university. He's really friendly and a bit silly sometimes. He sits with me most of the time (he has a couple of friends but he doesn't hang with them much).

Simple.

He likes you. He fancies you. He enjoys being with you. He wants to be your friend.

Yes, that's what is happening.

But what about the fact that he says "No" or shakes it off with a joke when you ask him if he fancies you?

Don't worry about it. He's at the early stages of 'liking you'.

Simply put, he wants to be your friend. But he doesn't want you to read meanings to it or take it as a serious relationship until he's sure you're the one for him.

Read the art of seduction for a step-by-step breakdown of the love relationship process.

Why do men go that route?

Well, if he says he loves you too early in the friendship he will raise your hopes. And then you will begin to build your world around him.

If sometime later he discovers you're not compatible with him and therefore ends the love relationship, he would have broken your heart and shattered your world. And he would also have a charge of unfaithfulness hanging over his head.

Consequently, honorable men take things slow.

They start as your admirer. Then become your friend. If things work out well between you two, they move a step further and then further until you become man and wife.

If at the friendship stage they discover you're not compatible with their kind of person, they retain you as a friend and nothing more.

If this guy is as nice as you say . . . . Keep an eye on him.

Things may grow to become serious between you two. Or things may remain as they are . . . just friends . . . if there's no sound reason to take the relationship further.

Whatever the case, use him as a resource person. Get the most out of your friendship with him. Let him help you out with those difficult subjects that challenge you. Use his skill to your benefit.

But don't be selfish. Don't just take, take, take.

Give then take.

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