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He Smokes Marijuana And Doesn't Want To Stop

I feel my relationship is going well. I have been with him for 8 months.

I do have one issue though . . . he smokes marijuana and doesn't want to stop because he feels it made him who he is today?

I'm not sure if I should just learn to accept it, or still feel uptight. I love him, so leaving him is out of the question. He has always been here for me through everything. What should I do?

My Reply

It's great to have a love relationship that is going well. Many folks have not been able to find one in years.

Naturally, you want to protect what you have since it's difficult to find good men these days.

But you have concerns . . . he smokes marijuana and doesn't want to stop.

Why are you concerned?

You probably don't thing smoking marijuana is a smart thing to do. You're right. It isn't.

Marijuana is an addictive drug that holds its smokers captive. Once you're stuck on it, it's difficult to break free.

No wonder your man says that's what made him what he is today. The truth is . . . he is now dependent on marijuana and can't function well without it.

Can he break free from the hold of marijuana?

Yes . . . but with a little help from a therapist or a minister of God.

Will he break free?

He will if he wants to. But he won't want to if he believes he can't live without it.

Should you be uptight or just accept it?

Being uptight won't make him change. People change only if they want to. If you get too uptight about it, you will quarrel often and the love relationship will lead nowhere.

Should you accept it?

No.

Being stuck on marijuana is a dangerous thing. If you doubt that, ask a heart surgeon or a psychiatrist. Marijuana smoking has dangerous consequences. Therefore you shouldn't accept it.

Should you leave him?

You say that's not an option. I won't tell you to leave him either because that is a personal decision.

Obviously you love him very much. So, let me be honest with you.

Twenty years down the road, if he continues smoking marijuana consistently, he won't be the same person again. Marijuana will ruin him.

So, what should you do?

Seek professional help. Talk to a psychologist . . . someone who has experience dealing with marijuana or drug addicts. Learn how you can help him. Then try to help him.

If he still refuses to change, then the decision to stay or leave is up to you.

I wish you the best in your love relationship.

However, you have to come to terms with reality and decide honestly the kind of person you want to live your life with.

Someone stuck on marijuana? Someone dependent on marijuana to function? Or someone confident, clear-headed, sharp, clever, and intelligent without the influence of deadly drugs?

The decision is yours.

Yes, he may have stuck with you during your trials. But it's not fair for you to sacrifice your life on the altar of marijuana.

Hello! It's decision time.

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