Heartbroken? Going Through A Breakup? Fight For Yourself. Don't Stop Living.

by F
(Toronto)

We were best friends for 10 years. We dated for one. We started talking about the ring, looked at a hall, he even said we could share one bathroom in the mornings (but with 2 vanities because I take up too much room). It was my perfect love story.

And then he said he wanted to be single. That it wasn't me, that I'm amazing. That he was scared- but didn't know why.

A month of crying myself to sleep went by and no word. Finally I called him and he still didn't have an answer, just that he couldn't ever hurt me again.

Another month of crying myself to sleep went by and that disgusting gut feeling that I felt, I knew he was with something else. And sure enough, through "investigation" I found out he was.

Facebook, Twitter, Google are all BAD things after a break up. Do yourself a huge favour and DO NOT investigate. DO NOT INVESTIGATE!!!!

Any information that you "find" will NEVER be of any good to you. You will only hurt yourself in the process.

Sure, your loved one caused the initial hurt, but anything after that is all on you.

So, he's moved on. Yes, that hurts. It hurts a lot. But you cannot do anything about it.

You can only fight for yourself when he didn't fight for you. He just gave up and walked away, never looking back.

And keep saying to yourself: my soulmate would never hurt me. my soulmate would fight for me. my soulmate wouldn't have me cry myself to sleep for months.

FIGHT FOR YOURSELF.

Don't stop living. Even if you have to go through the motions of living. Just pretending to smile everyday even when you don't want to. And one day, your smile will come back for real.

Because you ARE good enough. You ARE worthy of anyone. You ARE special.

Keep him in your heart and memories.

It takes time. I'm on 5 months and I still cry myself to sleep. But I am fighting for myself.

Your life will be more dignified than his behaviour.