I broke up with my girl because she wanted wife swapping

by Drew Brando
(montreal)

I dated a girl for 2 years and 2 months ago i broke up with her because she wanted to partner exchange and go to sex parties.

Obviously I told her that I don't wanna do this because I disagree with the idea that this is what good relationships have, because I think that open relationships are simply about lust and have nothing to do with love itself.

She said I don't do it because I'm a jealous guy and we agreed to break up. Anyway now I'm kinda depressed and it's not because she left me its because of this partner exchange thing.

I mean I'm not a jealous guy, I never was and never really will be but this has nothing to do with jelousy.

Even if I was single I would never go to one of those places simply because I think its degrading lustful life that's self destructive and has nothing to do about love.

If I wanted other women I could have broke up with her and stay single, but no I chose her cus she's the greatest girl apparently.

I have nothing against dating multiple women if I'm single but if I'm in a relationship that means I made a choice and I stick to it.

The reason I'm depressed is because I read online that wife swapping is good for couples and that human beings are made polygamous. And all these people who wife swap they know what they do is wrong they just sugar coat it to make it look ok.

They say only people with good relationships can have this, and my grandparents who are happily married for 35 years told me that a good relationship is when you are attracted to other women but you don't really want them I mean you have a wife that you love and you choose for a reason and that reason just doesn't go away like that.

my grandpa says if he wanted other women he could have just stayed single. And i know that when people get married like 10 times and each marriage just lasted 1 year or so it probably never was love in the first place it was just lust.

Besides what kind of a life is that jumping from woman to woman telling everyone I love you, a life that leads nowhere, a train wreck.

I'm sorry about writing all this and with such bad grammar I'm only 18 years old although thats not an excuse.

It's just my question is: why is wife swapping just lust?

I mean, I know why its lust I can't put my finger on it, and all these people on other forums I've read they sugar coat it they say wife swapping is good for relationships and good thing in general and I'm confused.

I'm scared is this a good thing? I mean come on, is this what love is?

I'm not a jelous guy at all I don't really care in general I love my women just the way they are but if they cheat on me I can't tolerate it, to it says that I'm not the guy for her. And in this scenario if I truly love her I must respect that she doesnt like me and that I'm not the man for her and I move on.

Thank you for taking your time to read this