I Did Not Take
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Please save me from this mess. My Reply Your girlfriend is a peculiar one. Most girls do not brag about the fact that they lost their virginity to a man to whom they are not married. |
Yes, they may tell you about their unsavory past but only to let you know they're not saints. And, in particular, to be honest and straightforward with you about who they really are.
However, in your case, your girlfriend is actually blaming you for not being the one who broke are virginity.
Something is wrong here.
It's likely that she feels she wouldn't have lost her virginity if you hadn't done what you did.
What did you do to make that other man take her virginity before it's time?
I can't answer that. Only you or your girlfriend can.
There's another side to the story.
Perhaps you had nothing to do with her losing her virginity. Perhaps she's suffering from some form of guilt. She's probably concerned that the fact that she wasn't a virgin when you hook up with her may become a serious issue down the road.
If that's the case, she's simply defending her poor sense of judgment by attacking you.
Remember that phrase? "The best form of defense is attack".
So, she says, "I was there for you all the time but you were not man enough to take my virginity".
That way, she sheds a bit of the guilt she feels. She's simply attacking you so she can feel better.
Bottom line.
Theory 1: You contributed in some direct or remote way to her losing her virginity
Or . . .
Theory 2: She's feeling guilty that she was not faithful to you. And she's trying to exonerate herself by blaming you.
You know the saying . . . "blame it on the sun, blame it on the rain, but never blame yourself".
So, what should you do?
Bring up the subject on one of those days she's in a happy mood. Then discuss the subject in a straightforward no nonsense manner.
You're interested in . . .
I pray you enjoy your love relationship and make your girlfriend happy again.
It's not a smart thing for a girl to lose her virginity before marriage. Feelings of guilt lingers in her heart . . . somewhere deep down her subconscious mind. And it can be a burden.
Read the virgin girl challenge.
Help her ease that burden by being understanding. It starts by talking about the situation openly.
I wish you a happy love relationship with the woman you love whether you took her viginity or not.
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