I like my boyfriend....and my ex.

by Taya
(Minnesota)

Hi!

I'm currently a Junior in high school.

Last July I moved across country to a new state. I met a wonderful guy, who I'll call Dave (I'm keeping everyone anonymous, for safety's sake).

He's a strong Christian like I am and he got me connected with a new church and a great youth group. Soon after, we began to go out.

We went out for nine months, but in the end, we rarely saw each other. He's an honor student, and when he wasn't working on homework, he's volunteering somewhere (which is not say I think that's bad at all. I admired it, but he just didn't have time for me).

After many nights of crying myself to sleep, I decided it was time to end things. I broke up with him a few days later.

After this, a close friend of mine (I'll call him Rick) asked me out on a date. I told him that I was still hung up on Dave, but we could just hang out and see how things went. This went on for about a month, and we decided we were an item (there was a specific conversation).

This was my first mistake.

I was still liking Dave, but Rick was wooing me, and I fell for it. A few weeks later I got a call from one of the two other girls he was seeing. I could handle that if he didn't try to have sex with me. Needless to say, I ended things with him.

Then comes James. He's everything I could ask for.

He's become Christian, he dotes on me, appreciates me, and has fallen for me fast. Again, I told him to take things slow, but I can tell he's attached. Whenever I'm with him, I feel like I have the whole world - I feel like the luckiest girl alive.

The problem is, I still like Dave! I don't even understand why.

It honestly makes no sense. He's bad for me. Even if by some extent we got back together, it would never work. He's taking all AP classes. I know he's have no time for me. Also, he's very fit, and well, I'm not obese, but I'm definitely not the tiniest thing around.

Anyways, my question is this:

Do I stay with James and hope my feelings for Dave go away or do I follow another path? And if so, what path do you think I should take?

Any insight on this would be a great help for me! It's hard for me to be objective when I'm so emotionally involved.

Thanks for your help!