I love him but i dont feel complete ever since

by Daphne Tan
(Cavite, Philippines)

My bf and i had our baby when we were just 3months on and we've also known each other for only 3months that time. since we found out that im pregnant we decided to live together even though we still dont know each other better.

Today, we are exactly one year and 3 months, i love him so much and i know he feels the same way.

The thing is he is too matured for me and im too young for him. he's 27 and im 20. I dont have job i just stayed at home taking care of our son, so when we had a fight i always feel alone because i dont own anything and i dont have place to go because i dont have money.

he's not giving me money because he dont trust me that i could budget his money. i really really feel that im always alone even when we're together.

i know im deeply in love with him because i already had a son before we met. i chose to be with him rather than my baby, thats why im really confuse why im feeling this.

he dont even ask me for marriage, even though i still dont want to, but for me, if he really loves me, its a must. i always feel that he's turning me down, because i just finished high school.

sometimes when he's @ work i keep on asking myself why is this happening to me. i love him but i know something's wrong. why i dont feel content.

please help. im really confuse.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

Let me get this straight. He doesn't trust you to manage money. And you depend on him for everything you need. So you feel lonely.

Could the lack of trust with money be becuase you have mismanaged some money he gave you in the past? Or could it be that he is afraid that if he gives you money you will then be empowered to make certain decisions?

Did he tell you not to work?

Being a full-time mom is not easy. Sometimes you feel like you're not good for anything else or that you're being treated like his babysitter.

Working gives women financial power and a sense of worth. Besides, when you are busy at work, you have less time to feel lonely or to worry over the unknown.

Perhaps you need to get a job and make your own money. That way you won't feel like you're not good for anything else besides taking care of your baby.

I suspect that the way you feel is a function of the way he treats you . . . like baggage or property that is always there.

You can do something about that. You can get a job. You an also improve your status like learning a trade or business so that you are actually good at something. This will improve your self esteem.

You say he's too mature for you because he is 6 yrs older than you?

I find that hard to believe. I am 8yrs older than my wife. And she says she is having the best time of her life.

The issue is not the age difference but how you're being treated. Remember you're in love with him. And that love has already produced a baby. You hooked up with him even though you know he's much older than you.

I suggest you empower yourself with education and a job. Then change your attitude. Get more organized, more professional, more in control. When your attitude changes, his will change.