I want my husband to write a will and Include Me In It. But He Says I Love Money

my husband and I have been married 14yrs. He is 58. I am 43. He is retired and I work. We have nothing in both our names.

He owns the house, land, etc. He got it before we were married. He refuses to put the house and acre it sits on in my name too.

I try to tell him that if he was to die, then I would be out in the cold and his kids would get everything. He refuses to make a will.

I figure it like this. if he loved me then he would make a will where I wouldn't have to worry about a place to live. I don't want to be 60yrs old and have to work.

I have arthritis and a herinated disc right now. He says it's all about me and money. No it's about me having security when I get old.

I don't make but $8.75hr. He has inherited a bunch of land and a house. I don't care that his kids get this. All I'm asking for is a little security in my old age.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

Apparently your husband has grown children before you got married to him. And he already inherited his fortune before you both got married.

The tendency is that he or his children may feel that the reason you married him is for his money. And when you begin to speak of your share of the inheritance, you simply confirm what they already believe.

Don't get me wrong.

This does not mean you do not deserve to get a share of his inheritance as his wife. It's just an emotional concern because some women have gone ahead to even kill their husbands emotional or physically for a share of his money or the inheritance.

This fear or concern no doubt exist with your husband or his kids. And it's not easy to fix.

You can mention the subject subtly at long intervals in-between and when he is in a good moode. But you can't push it too hard otherwise your husband will become suspicious. You don't want that to happe. It's more trouble.

This is the dilemma of marrying a rich guy or a guy much older than you and with grown children.