I'm Feeling Like He's Using Me

by Kathy
(phnx., az.)

The man that I have been seeing recently, I met 10 years ago when he was married. In december of 2007, he divorced his wife.

We started seeing each other a few months ago. We are both 50. We both are alot alike, have the same views on life, share common interests, and we have lots of good conversation together and lots of laughter, and great chemistry. And we have great sex together.

He is a wealthy man with a successful and important business which he works at seven days a week and sometimes 12 to 14 hour days. When he comes to visit me he only stays no more than 2-3 hours.

He has given me money alot of times before he leaves for me to do with as I please. I argue for him to not leave it but he won't have it. I work seven days a week for my rent, so I don't have much money. But am grateful for what I do have.

Everytime we have sex and then he leaves to go back to work, he always leaves money. For the last two weeks he has been gone because he is watching his 14 year old son while ex wife is out of town.

In the two weeks he came over once and we had sex and he left me a little money. We have only talked on the phone twice.

Two days ago his ex wife was to return to pick up their son and she did not. So instead of calling me two days ago, he didn't call or come over at all until today when I was working. Then he says he's busy, can't talk long, has to get going says he'll call me in a day or two and hands me two one-hundred dollar bills for me to keep.

I am deeply attracted to this man and he is a remarkable person; honest, caring, giving, has a big heart, doesnt drink or smoke or do drugs.

I don't ask him for anything at all, and as much as I do need money, I don't feel right taking it and spending it.

My question is this: Is it right for him to leave money after we have sex and he goes back to work? And does it sound to you like he's blowing me off? And what should I do or say?

Desperately in need of advice. Thank-you