Im in a love triangle with my husband's best friend

by Angie
(NJ)

Please no judgment or negative comments. I have been married for about 5 years and about a year ago, my husband’s best friend started to be very friendly with me.

My husband’s best friend is nowhere near my type. He is not something I would be looking for in a man. He is a major player with 5 kids and 3 different babies moms.

My husband works nights and his best friend knows this so little by little, he would ask to come over to talk and I would let him in not thinking anything because that is what we did, just talk.

After a few months of him doing this, I still did not think anything of it. Until one day, I had gone out to a club with my girlfriends and ran into his best friend there. I was a little tipsy and he offered to take me home.

Now I know alcohol is not an excuse but I told him ok no problem thinking he would take me home.

Well, he ended up driving to a hotel and we ended up having sex. I felt like crap the next day and could not look at my husband in the face for a long time.

His friend would keep calling me asking to see me after this and I would tell him no. After sometime passed by I agreed to see him again. He came by the house and we had sex again.

Now I know what a lot of you may be thinking but, after a year of this going on I have grown really attracted to his best friend and have sex at least once a week.

His best friend does live with his girlfriend of 15 years and it is hard for me to accept the fact that he goes home to her and I go home to my husband after all this.

I guess it is just a sex thing with him but to me my feelings are now involved. He tells me he wishes things were different between us because he really likes me. Then he will not call me for a few days.

Do you think he means what he says about really liking me and being with me or is it just to sleep with me?

I mean we have this crazy relationship going on behind closed doors but when we are around each other in front of family and friends, we act as if we do not know each other.

After a year of doing this he must have some kind of feelings for me right. A man would not keep coming back unless they did not care. I have stopped taking his calls and ignored him for a while and he kept calling so I figured he does like me but I just cannot take much more of this sneaking around.

My feelings are attached and sometimes it looks like his are also but he backs away. I know he is a player and does this often but usually the girls are for on time deal. This is going on a year with us.

I do not know anymore. I am just very confused and started to get depressed over it.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

You are cheating on your husband with his best friend and you enjoy doing it.

Isn't that kind of unfair?

To make matters worse, you want your husband best friend to have strong feelings for you and love you.

Think about it.

What do you think he thinks of you?

He's not leaving his girlfriend nor proposing to marry you. So, what are you to him?

A woman of convenience. The plaything that he uses to satisfy his sexual desire.

Would he want to have you as wife?

This is doubtful since he knows that you have repeatedly backstabbed your husband . . . his best friend.

In simple words . . . he is using you. And you are cheating on your husband.

The truth is . . . nothing stays a secret forever. This sneaky relationship will be exposed sooner or later.

Where would that leave you?

Nothing good, I must tell you.

My advice?

Stop.

Stop this unhealthy affair and make peace with your husband. That is the only way you too can have peace.