im in love, just not with my boyfriend.

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im in love, just not with my boyfriend.

by jessica
(texas)

Okay. So I have a boyfriend.

Its just I'm not in love with him as much as I'm in love with this other guy.

See the other guy has a girlfriend and she's my friend too. But I think the guy I like likes me too.

He texts me, he calls me.

I mean he gives me looks that he might like me.
He always sits next to me and sits really close.

I just don't know what to do. so please help me!!

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Jan 20, 2009
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seriously?
by: Bob

Not to sound like a pessimist but this sounds like a sketchy situation. If you are longing for another boy (it doesn't matter if he likes you back) then your relationship isn't heading in a good direction. You need to get rid of your current boyfriend because it really isn't fair to him. Let him move on if you aren't able to fully commit to him. And who knows, maybe once said crush boy sees that youre single he will act on it. If not, move on. This time stop lusting after other men!

Sep 18, 2007
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Is This Love Or Lust?
by: Samson Itoje

What exactly do you feel? Is it love or lust?

What you feel is affection for a guy that has caught your attention. But since he belongs to someone else, your friend, longing for him amounts to lust.

Why?

Because Lust is selfish and self-centered whereas Love is considerate, empathetic, and kind.

If you love your friend, you will be considerate towards her . . . you wouldn't want to hurt her feelings.

Bottom line.

Terminate the relationship. Stick to your friend. She deserves to have her man.

If you're not in love with your current boyfriend, there's no pointing keeping the relationship.

Let it go. Someone who will love your better than your dream will find you sooner or later. And you will be glad you didn't steal your friend's man.
So, what should you do now that he's hitting on you and you feel attracted to him?

Just do what is right.

Respect your friend. Demonstrate your unalloyed friendship and loyalty. Show her you love her.

How?

Take your eyes off her man.

Have a straight talk with your friend's boyfriend. Let him know that you will not cheapen yourself to the point of cheating on your friend.

And cut those intimacies. Give him so distance.

This may be painful to do especially since you're beginning to tune to his frequency.

But know this.

It pays to do the right thing. And when you sow goodness, kindness, love, you reap it a thousand fold and more.

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