I'm In Love With Him, But He Still Loves Her

I met him at work, and we are both going through nasty divorces. The divorces are very similar to each other. They both lasted for 10 years, and are actually 13 days apart.

My husband cheated, and so did his wife, she beat on him, and he beat on me. My husband hated my family, and his wife hated his. Both of our problems are exactly the same.

We started talking through other coworkers, and we were helping each other by the others advice. I listened to all he's done and gave her that I begged for from my husband - being compassion, trust, affection, companionship.

During the time I was helping and listening to him, it helped me to heal my heart. But now there's a huge problem: I fell in love with him.

He invited me over one night like usual to keep from both of us being alone. I knew better to go, but I wanted to so bad inside, that I could'nt resist the offer. He has a beautiful smile, and when I look in his eyes it's like looking into heaven.

Well that night he started to cry, and I sat down with him, and held him so tight that there was no air in between the two of us, and I know he felt something too. Because I could feel his heart rate starting to increase.

I can't describe no better feeling than when he wrapped his muscular arms around me, but anyway.

He has told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship yet, but I can't stop myself from wanting to be with him, and I know he still loves her, and wants her back, but I still can't make him understand that he should let her go and move on like she has.

She moved in with another guy three days after he left. I know what he wants, and I know how to treat him, and I would give, or do whatever it takes to get him back into my arms.

I went back one more time after that, and temptation got the best of both of us this time. That hug went to a kiss which was amazing, and it didn't stop there, and the passion was so intense, and it felt so right, and perfect.

Now he feels bad, like he cheated on her, and done something wrong. I know better, and I know he still loves her, even though she hurt him so bad, and I can't let go. I want him so bad, and it makes it hard to work with him, when all I want to do is hold him.

How do I help him with his broken heart, but keep from breaking mine in the process. He's a capricorn, and I'm a gemini, our signs are very incompatible, but we get along so good, and can talk about anything. What do I do?

Do I hold on, and just sit back and be there when he needs me, and let whatever happen, or do I let go, and cut the ties completely?