Interracial Marriage: Is Interracial Wife Worth The Trouble?

Interracial Marriage - Is Interracial Wife Worth The Trouble?

Interracial marriage has become routine. But having an interracial wife poses special challenges for you and your mate. Is interracial marriage really worth the trouble?

That is a pertinent question.

Why?

In simple terms, having an interracial wife opens a whole new world and comes with its own peculiar challenges.
And sometimes the challenges can be daunting.
Why, you ask?
Well, for one thing, you come from two different cultures. And the cultures and beliefs of your people may be as far apart as night and day.
Some beliefs may be reconcilable while others may not.

Beliefs, cultures, and attitudes that are not reconcilable, may have to be discarded for the relationship to blossom. But whose beliefs, culture, or attitudes should be discarded? Yours or that of your woman?

Suppose you consider hers barbaric and yours modern. Logically, then, hers should be discarded not yours. That is simple enough, right?

But wait.

Does she agree that her peoples beliefs, attitudes, and culture are barbaric? Or does she feel they're just different and therefore worthy of consideration?

Does she agree to discard hers or insists that yours may have to give way for hers?

Is there a major disagreement here?

Will you ever be able to reconcile your differences?

These are the very questions that will confront you day in day out when you get into interracial marriage. Your interracial wife may be the sweetest thing that happened to you. But you must be ready to face up to the challenges.

This is not to say that marrying an interracial wife is wrong. Nor am I saying that interracial marriage is not good for you.

I'm simply saying . . . be realistic. Do not rush into a relationship . . . interracial or otherwise.

First . . .

Know what you're going into

Evaluate your chances of interracial marriage success

Evaluate your woman's willingness to compromise her position or beliefs when necessary

Evaluate your potential - and willingness - to compromise your position or beliefs when necessary

Every relationship has its challenges. There's no proof that love relationship between people of same tribe, culture, or religious affiliations are more successful than those between people of interracial backgrounds.

You will face challenges whether you fall in love with someone from your neighborhood who speak the same language as yourself or not.

However, the more the things you have in common, the greater your level of understanding of the other person's position. And hence, the less friction there'll be.

The ideal situation is to marry someone with similar background, education, beliefs, religious affiliations, and culture.

Why?

Similar backgrounds, beliefs, and culture ensure seamless integration when you get married.

Nevertheless, this does not guarantee that your marriage will succeed. It only improves your chances of success.
On the other hand, parties in interracial marriage relationships have to work harder to integrate the varying beliefs and cultures of their mate. And this can pose serious problems especially if one of the parties or both are unwilling to compromise their position.
Another thing.

There will be surprises.

When you get married, you'll certainly discover things about your mate that you never knew about her before. It doesn't matter whether you marry an interracial wife or not. It doesn't matter that you got into an interracial marriage or not.

It will happen to you.

You will discover things about your mate you didn't know about before you got married. What then? Will you pack up the relationship or will you hang on hoping to help your mate improve?

Remember . . . this can happen to anyone including you. This will happen whether it is interracial marriage or not.

Bottom line.

What's of importance is not whether you're married to interracial wife or not. The most important thing in a relationship is to be married to someone you love and who loves you in return. What is generally called 50-50 love.

When you love your wife and she loves you in return . . . 50/50 . . . you can deal successfully with any challenges that come against your relationship.

First, fall in love. Thereafter, get married. Love will take care of the rest.

Having said that, I must also say this. And please, listen good.

When you decide to marry a woman from a different race . . . an interracial wife . . . be sure you're ready and prepared for what's coming. Be ready to deal with the special 'trouble' or challenges associated with interracial marriage.

Be ready to . . .

Confront your folks. Your parents may not buy the idea of you marrying from a different race

Compromise some of your beliefs, culture, or convictions

Be ready to be accommodating. Your wife's perception of things based on her culture and upbringing may be substantially different from yours

Be consoling. Your parents may descend on her unnecessarily or your society may not be ready for her yet

That is the challenge of interracial marriage.

Is interracial marriage or interracial wife worth all the trouble?

If you love her, yes.

You can succeed.

If you love her . . . if you really, really love her . . . nothing should stop you from going ahead with the relationship.

But remember . . . love comes with responsibilities. Be prepared to shoulder them.

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