Is It Okay To Date An Ex's Friend?

by Jen
(Illinois)

I dated my ex for two and a half years and we broke up because we were both really unhappy. We both have had the same circle of friends for years and I developed a lot of feelings for one of my friends I grew up with.

We both have the same feelings for each other but he will not give me the time of day because he is really strict about the whole, "you don't date your friends ex's" idea.

My ex has even told our friend he gives us his blessing and wouldn't care because he has moved on.

I really feel that this guy is my true soul mate and he feels the same...yet he won't date me or give me a chance? what's that all about?

I keep telling him that I will change his mind some how and he always says "we'll see how I handle it."

I'm very confused and hope someone can help.