Is My Husband Trust Worthy?

by Once Bitten Twice Shy
(Southern CA)

My husband and I have been married for 11 years and he always tells me that he has never and would never cheat on me.

He says that he has been cheated on before and knows how heartbreaking that is - so he would never want to put anyone through that kind of pain.

He also tells me that I am the love of his life. But sometimes when we are out somewhere and he gets too much to drink, he becomes rather touchy -flirting with the other women...and right in front of me!

Other people notice too and it is very humiliating.

The next day, if I bring up what he did, he either denies the whole thing or he tells me that I am just insecure and that he didn't think I would get that mad about it.

He says that he probably could have cheated on me by now if he wanted to, but he is "just not that kind of a guy." But things that he does and says sometimes lead me to think differently.

If he acts this way right in front of me (although not very often), then who knows what he might do if I weren't there to supervise?

That's just the way I interpret things.

What do you all think? Should I trust him or would it be best to keep him on a short leash?

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

From what you say, it appears that he has not cheated on you before. At least you are not aware that he has.

It would appear that he misbehaves and becomes flirty when he is drunk. Most people lose their senses when under the influence of alcohol.

Perhaps this can explain his behaviour.

The truth is . . . you can't know everything your husband does. So, you have to trust him to do the right thing when you're not looking.

If you worry too much about what he does in your absence, it may become an obsession that will constantly eat away at your happiness.

Want to be happy?

Then trust your husband to do the right thing. It's the path to peace of mind and family satisfaction.