Love And Memories

Love and memories go together. Some memories are pleasant. They put a smile of fulfillment on your face. Some others are not so pleasant. They turn your stomach.

But if your partner jilts you and breaks your heart, you can become a captive to unpleasant memories. And those unpleasant thoughts can ruin your life.

What should you do if you're a victim of heartbreak? How do you move on?

The first thing you should not do is . . . do not live in a dream world.

I've heard people say, "I can't go on without him", "I will die if I can't marry him".

Well, that's how you feel. And it's a reflection of how much you love him. But the truth is . . . you can live without him. You will not die if you can't marry him.

Think about this.

Case 1: A woman had an absolutely sweet husband. His family was against the relationship. But he went ahead all the same. Six months after their marriage, he died of food poisoning.

She was devastated. This couldn't be happening!

The emotional turmoil that followed was next to unbearable. In the process, she lost her pregnancy.

She felt like dying, but she didn't. And she could not fall in love again. Why? Well, she could not find a man as sweet as her late husband.

However, ten years later, she fell in love again and got married.

Case 2: Felix had a stubborn wife. They were constantly at each other's throat. Eventually he divorced her. It was painful but it was almost impossible to keep the relationship.

Will he fall in love again?

How?

1. Understand that you deserve to be loved 100 percent. You deserve a man who will risk everything for you . . . a man who truly loves you.

2. Understand that the man who truly loves you will be committed to you and you alone.

3. Understand that the man who abandons you for another woman doesn't love you.

4. Understand that what you want is happiness and fulfillment. And your ex-boyfriend couldn't have given them to you since he was not committed to you.

5. Understand that it's better that he's gone

Can you love again?

Of course, yes. But how?

1. Interact with people. Don't lock yourself indoors and cry your heart out
2. Make new friends
3. Be open to new possibilities, new opportunities.
4. Do not rush into a relationship, another relationship.
5. Test new prospects. Do not fall for cheap talk and exaggerations.

Love and memories . . . they go together.

Enjoy the pleasant memories. Discard the unpleasant.

Love and memories . . . honestly, you can love again.

Yes, it's painful to breakup with someone you love. But sometimes it's better. It may just be a blessing in disguise.

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