. . . and all the small ingredients that make a relationship well-rounded and everlasting.

The truth is . . . making love is exciting. But you won't get round to it if at some point after your marriage you find your man less than what you imagined. Some women find their man so repulsive that they walk out of their marriage just months after they excitedly jumped in.

I hope you get the point.

Making love is great fun. It has its place in every relationship. But it must not becloud the real person behind the man that is so good in bed. And remember the point about dignity and self respect I mentioned earlier in the true love definition page. It is so important that it is worth repeating here. Do not go to bed with someone to whom you are not legally married.

Not everyone who read this will agree with me. Even you may not. But give it a second thought.

Men have little respect for women with whom they have had an affair. Some consider them cheap.

Besides, some men have a practice of going after a beautiful woman only for the pleasure of a one night stand. It helps their ego to be able to tell their pals they have slept with that gorgeous innocent-looking princess receiving a standing ovation.

When they are through having you, they just move on to someone else. And it will hurt your self esteem especially if it was an office relationship or if you live in the same neighborhood.

You earn dignity and self respect by drawing a line between what is right and profitable in the long-term and what is bad and gratifying now. Instant gratification has a way of coming back to hurt those who love it.

Making love is cool, exciting . . . yes, great fun. But wait.

The respect and dignity you gain by insisting on making love after marriage is priceless. If the relationship doesn't work out and you decide to breakup, you leave him with pride. He can't throw a silly joke about you to his friends.

If he is marriage material and you get married, he will remember your firm stand years after. No one can win a morality argument against you with your husband. You know why?

Well, he knows you are chaste because he once tried a fast one on you but it didn't work. The news will be everywhere. He will be proud of you. You will be proud of yourself.

Thinking of making love before marriage? Forget it. It's not worth it.

What about all the fuss on the net about college girls and teens on the loose? It's a joke on you . . . another ploy by wayward, uncultured, badly bred children to take advantage of you.

Dispense of their joke.

Making love is for married people. You will have all the fun . . . and more . . . when you get married. And believe me, you wouldn't have missed much.

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