Most marriage advice sites miss the point. They focus primarily on sex. But sex is not what
makes a relationship work. Here's best of breed marriage advice that works.
You've spent months waiting for your wedding day. You've been through several hurdles. Now
your dreams have finally been realized. The excitement makes repeated love making come
naturally.
Then too most working class people take a long vacation to execute their wedding and take
a honeymoon. With the routine of work and stress out of the way and your beautiful wife in
front of you all day, love making comes knocking regularly.
Most people return from a tedious 8-5 or 7-7 job tired and out of sync. Sex is the
least thing on their minds.
Days quickly turn into months and months years. Fantasy is over. Day dreams of what your
marriage will be are out the window. What you are left with is reality.
Your spouse's behavior and habits
Suddenly, you discover weeks roll by without any sexual activity between you and your spouse.
Then it dawns on you that sex is only a tiny minuscle part of being married. In fact, love
making is almost impossible when you have problems weighing down on your mind.
Bottom line.
Marriage advice that works must be based on what the major concerns for couples are in
real life. Don't worry about those marriage advice sites that waste an entire web site on
the subject of sex. They have no clue as to the width and depth of a marriage relationship.
Now for some sound marriage advice.
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Lasting marriages are built on . . .
Love - sharing, caring, understanding
Trust
Mutual respect
Open two-way communication
Shared values - moral values and Godly values
If you are comtemplating marriage, be sure these ingredients exist before signing below the
dotted line.
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If you are already married and some or all of these features are missing, you
can still save your marriage.
How?
Follow this marriage advice: Be the person you want your husband to be.
You know that moods are contagious. Similarly, attitudes are contagious.
You love your husband. There are certain endearing qualities that draws you to him. But then,
there are also unpleasant attitudes or habits he has that tears at your heart.
You can still save your marriage.
Take my advice above. Be the person you want your husband to be.
Show him good example.
Love him, respect him, trust him, talk to him and with him, and let God take control.
Attitude changes take time. So prepare for the long haul.
You shouldn't marry anyone whose values substantially differs from yours. But if you are
already married, there's not much you can do but to make the marriage work.
You make the marriage work by playing your role well. In time, your good conduct will have
positive effects on your husband. And you may be rewarded with the kind of life you seek.
However, this takes time.
In view of this, self-serving marriage advice experts will have you believe that the best
thing to do is to retaliate . . . to return evil for evil.
For example, if your husband has been cheating on you, half baked 'experts' tell you to get
back at him by cheating on him too.
Bad advice.
Returning evil for evil doesn't make things better. It makes the situation worse.
Cheating husband and cheating wife . . . two deadly combination.
Good always conquers evil. Check history.
To save your marriage, conquer the evil your husband does with good.