My boyfriend won't hang out with me unless we have 'plans.'

My boyfriend of over a year won't hang out with me unless we have something planned or a specific activity we've agreed on doing.

I like doing simple things, like watching a movie at home together or cuddling, and he likes going out to movies or hanging out with large groups of people. I'm craving alone-time.

I don't know if he's a bad match for me, or if I need to work harder to try and find a compromise.

What should I do?

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

It depends on what is important to you.

It's difficult to change people just by telling them to change. People, especially men, like to be in-charge, in control. So when a woman try to force a guy to change, he becomes heady and stubborn.

One way to get people to change how they react to you and what you say is to try and change yourself.

When you change your behaviour or attitude, he will change his response to you.

In your case, try enjoying what he enjoys. Go out with him, try the group associate, and genuinely try to enjoy being out with him.

Over time you can steal a bit of private time to yourselves after satisfying his yearning for audience.

For example, when returning from a movie, you can subtly request that he drop you off at home. Then invite him in for a drink. That could easily turn into a quiet alone-time that you desire.

A word of caution: A quiet alone-time between a young boy and girl often end up in sexual relations. And sex before marriage often cheapens the relationship and . . . YOU.

So be careful about what you desire.