My girlfriend's mother doesn't want me with her daughter.

by Pyroclasma

I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 13. Yeah, I know what many of you think about that, and I could care less because I've been hearing it all the time.

So if you aren't here to help then don't bother replying. Anyway, my girlfriend is just the best thing that has ever happened to me. She's had a rough past and I was there to sweep her off her feet.

We trust and love each other very much and we never planned on breaking either of those. Here's the deal, just the other night, she told me that I have to break up with her because her mother doesn't want me to talk to her at all.

I understand about the age thing, and I agree with it, but to take such extreme measures to keep us apart is just insanity.

Her mother came and talked to me one day and told me that her daughter was too young for me. But as the days progressed, she said that if she ever caught her talking to me or ever heard about her talking to me, then she would force her to go live with her father in another city.

Her mother thinks that I'm going to use her daughter, or get her pregnant and leave. But I'm not that type of person, and I despise all people that do that, whether it be men or women.

She only thinks that because that's what happened to her. I don't know what to do at this point. We aren't together anymore, and I really want to get back with her.

I never thought that my first true love was going to end this way. Is there anyway that I can somehow convince her mother that I'm nowhere near as bad as she thinks?

Is there a way that I can get her mother to understand that her daughter is truly happy with me, and that I'm the only person that could do that?

I just really need someone to shine some light on the situation. Your help will be greatly appreciated.

Honestly, I love her and I don't want to lose her now, or never for that matter.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

As you rightly mentioned, her mother is afraid that her young daughter may end up like her.

Is this an unsubstantiated fear?

No. Evidence abounds that show that when a boy and a girl start an intimate relationship too early, something unexpeted often happens . . . at least 90% of the time.

What can you do?

You can . . .

1. Understand the mother's viewpoint and keep your distance, at least for awhile.

2. Avoid all physical contact in view of the consequence for the one you love but keep in touch electronically to keep the love alive

3. Meet with her occasionally with a chaperon present to reassure the mother that you are committed to respecting the chastity of her daughter.