My Husband Left Me For Another Woman. He Says He Loves Her. Can It last?
by jenny
(kenai, ak, usa)
My husband left me for another woman on April 8. He has come back to try to work things out twice, but only mopes around about her and refuses to break contact when he said he would.
Anyway, I'm done with that. Here's the real question.
We have a 15 month old son. We live in Alaska. I moved up here for him and have no friends and family up here. I would like to move back to the lower 48.
We had planned on doing that before he decided to betray me in the worst possible way. We are going to court for divorce and custody next week. So, as of now I can't leave the state and will probably get shared custody.
He says if (I think it's more like when) this new relationship breaks up we can move away. Not as a family, but live in the same town to co parent.
So now I REALLY want this to end, so I can be around people who love me and not stuck up here in Alaska.
They have only known each other since Feb. The affair started in early March. Moved in with her in April. Claims to still love me. I know he is feeling very torn and confused. He also thinks he loves her. I'm thinking infatuation.
Anyway, I would really like to get the hell out of here before I have to go through another winter. Want to be around people who love me right now.
Do you think this will last? They hardly know each other, but think they are in love. I don't think it's real love. Do you?
Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor
It sounds more like lust rather than love.
People get caught on a flash of emotion and think it's love. A couple of months later, they come back to say they were confused and misread the signs.
When a married man abandons his wife and kids to seek the bosom of another woman, it sure is lust.
Should you wait for him to get over it?
That is entirely up to you.
Should you move away?
From what you say, you don't have any friends or family around Alaska. So moving away makes sense.
My advice?
Do what's right for you and the kids. And don't give up on love.
It's disastrous and emotionally challenging when a man walks out of a woman's life, a man she loves and has been married to for years.
But since he has decided to walk away, start all over again because life is too precious to throw away.
Soon, another man much better will walk into you life. It aways happens especially when you keep your head high and maintain your pride and womanhood.
