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My Husband Makes Me Feel Last Compared To The Dogs

My husband and I have been separated since 1/1/2005 and were in therapy. We have 2 boys and 2 girl dogs.

The boys are now grown and gone. The dogs are old and will be gone soon. I don't want any more dogs because my husband makes me feel last compared to the dogs.

My husband refuses to live without a dog and I don't want another dog period.

Does this make me less of a person to want this marriage to be over because of dogs?

My Reply

Obviously, there's a difference of opinion between you and your husband.

He loves dogs. He's passionate about dogs.

It appears as if you're not as passionate about dogs as he is. And to make matters worse, he seems to give the dogs more attention than he gives you.

Now you've reached a crossroad. He either gives up the dogs or forget the relationship.

Already you've been separated since January 1, 2005. That is, you've been apart for 2 years.

Are you less of a person for wanting this marriage to be over because of dogs?

Of course, you're not.

You're a human with free will. If you're not satisfied with something, the least you can do is say your mind.

So, it's perfectly normal for you to say your mind and ask for your husband to respect your wishes. It doesn't matter if it has to do with dogs or something major. You have a right to be heard.

However, you must understand that for two people to live together in happy love relationship, they must be willing to make compromises for each other. If they are unwilling to compromise, they can't live together for long.

In your case you've managed to live together and compromise for your husband until now. It's natural to expect him to also compromise.

But suppose he stubbornly refuses to give in to your demands for a dog less marriage, what would you do?

He refuses to live without dogs. You don't want any more dog, period.

The battle lines are drawn.

From what you say, he's not planning to give up his dogs. So, what will you do?

This is entirely up to you.

If you also refuse to compromise, then the relationship is as good as over.

Do you want the love relationship to be over? Do you love him enough to endure another decade of dogs?

These are questions you must answer.

Yes, you deserve a life without dogs. If you don't love dogs, there's no reason why you should be made to live with them everyday of your life.

But you love a guy who loves dogs. What will you do?

The ball is in your court. Play it well.

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