My Problem Is He Is Married
I am in a relationship for almost a year now and my problem is he is married.
We are working in the same company and he's very sweet and nice to me.
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I can feel that he loves me in fact he met my family already. But lately I can feel
that I'm falling out of love.
Too much things bothering me . . . please help me.
MY Reply
How would you like me to help you?
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Should I pray for the relationship to succeed? Should I path you on the shoulder and tell
you that it's alright to take another woman's beloved husband?
Or . . . should I tell you the blunt truth?
Okay, here's the blunt truth.
It's wrong to date another woman's husband in the name of love.
Why?
The simple reason is this . . . it will hurt his wife when the truth blows.
How do you know if something is wrong?
You know by placing yourself in the other person's shoes . . . by imagining how you would feel if
this were to happen to you.
So, let's get practical.
Imagine for a moment that you were this man's wife. You somehow discover that your husband have been
having an affair with his co-worker.
Imagine how you would feel. Excited? Empathetic?
Obviously, you won't feel proud of your husband.
Instead, you will feel betrayed, used, let down. And in that moment of anger, you could hurt somebody or
yourself.
Hey, why should you worry about what your lover's wife would feel?
Simple. What goes around comes around. YOU WILL REAP WHAT YOU SOW.
You can't run away from it. YOU WILL REAP WHAT YOU SOW.
Don't kid yourself.
If this man can cheat on his current wife, he can cheat on you if and when you have a steady relationship
going.
Did you say you're in love with him?
Wrong choice of words.
You're actually having an affair with a married man. (Read
married dating).
Pray that his wife should be a level-headed mild-tempered lady. If otherwise, you could lose a limb
when she find's out you've been courting her husband.
Oh, you think she won't find out?
Wrong, wrong, wrong.
She will find out sooner or later, one way or another. You can't be
secret friends
forever. No secret . . .
dirty little secret
or clean secret . . . stays a secret forever.
Nothing is hidden under the sun. You cannot keep your relationship a secret forever. Someday somebody
will let the secret out of the bag.
And . . . BAM! The wife hears it.
She will either take it lying low or she could SHOOT SOMEBODY.
Pray Hard!
It's a good thing you're falling out of love with this married man. Perhaps somewhere deep inside
you realize this isn't right.
Understand this . . .
Irrespective of how movies and romance magazines glorify and adore extramarital relationships, cheating
hurts everyone involved emotionally and psychologically.
This is a fact of life.
What should you do?
Terminate the love relationship.
Thereafter, if you want to be happy, observe the following simple rules:
Rule No. 1: NEVER DATE A MARRIED MAN
Rule No. 2: Be wary of flirting men
Rule No. 3: Be faithful to one partner and fall in love with a man who holds that belief sacred
Rule No. 4: Do to others as you would have them do to you (The Golden Rule)
Love is beautiful when it is with the right person . . . the man that is wholly and truly yours.
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