New Love Versus Old Love

Mar 17, 2008
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You're Having An Affair
by: Samson Itoje

Ricky, you're having an affair.

An affair is when you maintain a love relationship outside your marriage.

You may not be having sex with her now. But since you adore her and devote your time to dreaming about this other girl and "staying in touch constantly" . . . you're having an affair.

(Oh, the sex part will come later . . . eventually - when you can't pretend anymore)

Wait. How would you feel if you discover that your wife is still "keeping in touch" with one of her ex boyfriend?

You will clap for her and urge her to continue, right?

Wrong. Most likely you will be angry with her. Angry is a light word. You will be mad at her.

Now turn the tables.

Suppose she finds out that you've been courting your ex secretly. How would she feel?

Betrayed, of course.

I'm sorry, there's no light word for it. The reality is that you're being unfaithful to your wife and it's not fair.

It is true that love does not die. Your relationship with your ex is not proof of that.

Your continued relationship with your ex is proof that a man can rationize away his immoral behaviour in the name of love if he continues to maintain constant contact with his ex.

Want to be faithful?

Tell your ex that you're now married and that what you had in the past is in the . . . PAST.

No woman likes to be betrayed.

Your ex won't take it lightly if she's betrayed by her man. Why is she doing it to your wife in the name of "true love never dies?"

Be kind to your wife.

You said she's madly in love with you. That means, she's willing to do what it takes to make you happy.

So, tell her what you want her to do to make you love her as much as she loves you.

About your ex.

Your wife can never be like your ex. But she has things that your ex does not have.

So, instead of musing over what you're missing by not being with your ex, thank God for what you've gained by being with your wife.

Having a woman who loves you "madly" is worth more than Gold.

If you doubt me, ask the popular European icon whom the court have asked to pay $60,000,000 USD to his wife after their divorce.

You don't value what you have until you lose it!

Take a cold shower. Think clear.

You're making a fundamental mistake.

My advice to you is . . . STOP.

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