Painful, Twisted Situation, Need Advice

by Bill
(Wisconsin, U.S.)

This may seem like an odd way to start this but bear with me.

I work for a great company but for a year now I have had trouble at work with co-workers to the point of me potentially quitting.

Now, I recently met this woman who I consider marriage material, when we met she told me that her sister works at the same company I work for . . . in the same building.

As this woman and I progressed in getting to know one another, we both started talking about our past relationships.

She tells me she doesnt have alot of previous dating experience but she broke up with a guy she lived with for 8 years, 3 years ago.

I didnt have a problem with that, the past is past. Well, since then I have met her parents, spent alot of time and money on her, and yes, started to fall in love with her.

Then it happened, one night recently I came over to her house, and she drops a bombshell on me.

She says to me, remember when I told you that I had an 8 year relationship with a guy and lived with him?

Well . . . he works with you.

My heart sank. Not only did I know him, but he is a sleeze, sleeps around with many women ( including married women) her past is now my immediate present.

I hate this guy and now cant escape the constant idea of him and her together, intimately that is, and its right in my face.

He is not aware that I am dating his ex but I am not an educated man past high school, and I'm not sure I can afford to lose this job.

There are graduate students that dont make as much as I do.

HELP!!!