polyamory - is it right?

by Andrew Bran
(montreal)

Can you please explain to me what is wrong with this lifestyle? And please give me some logical arguments.

All my life I thought monogamy was the way and I still think so. But now I'm being bombarded with polyamory here in Canada.

According to polyamory, I'm selfish for not letting my girl sleep with other people.

According to them, I'm supposed to stay in a relationship and enjoy the idea of watching her cheat. Because that's what this is, cheating.

I never got bored of my girl, she's not an object, I can't get bored of her.

Apparently loving one person and one only puts "value" on her. And she's not an object. That's why people get jealous, because of fear of loss. Because we've lost an object.

Ahh,and they also say that one person can't fulfill all your needs, we need variety.

While I'm in a relationship, I'm supposed to be happy for her because she can spend time with someone else other than me.

Of course, I think they're life is just an excuse for sex. So then they reply: "it's not sex, it's falling in love and loving many people in the same time equally.

When you have 2 children don't you love them both the same? thats why love is unlimited, to love one person is to say love is finite, no love is unlimited you can love lots of people"

Now I know there's a million things wrong with this, it's narcissistic, immature and extremely childish. But I don't know what to believe anymore.

Quite frankly I've left my girlfriend and decided to live life alone for the rest of my life.

Love is sick and just optional. I don't really need this type of love.

I'm incredibly afraid of one day becoming some polyamory guy who runs around falling in love with people. I don't know what to believe anymore, I'm 19 years old and I'm afraid of becoming part of this crazy world and it's future.

I hope to not let society influence me with they're destructive habits, not now, nor in the future.