Questionable Love

by Brandy
(Raleigh, NC)

I have been seeing a man for about 6 months now. We meant on Match.com. We both have been married and now divorced.

We see each other about once a week. He travels a lot. We IM and text on the phone...not much talking though over the phone.

We get along so well and have so much in common. We hit it right off. We are sexually active with each other. We both go on dates here and there with other people. Both of us are scared to get into a relationship and have it fail again.

As time went on I started to create strong feelings for this man. I did not mean for this to happen, he is just so great. I then decided to take a break from him so that I could sort my feelings out.

I then started to contact him and he was distant so I meet up with him and told him that I realized that I do have feelings but I need to get to know him more and I would like more time with him. I told him that I was not asking for him to be a boyfriend or anything like that. I just wanted to get to know him more.

Right now just be friends and see if it could become more. He agreed and said maybe we could see each other this weekend.

The weekend comes and I do not here from him...so I am confussed and ask him for a drink! He than responds back " Thanks but I think I will pass"....that is it no explaining just that.

So I then the next day say Goodbye to him and he than writes back and i was shocked with the response. In my mind it made all sense. I mean I put my feelings out there and have given him my all and cared about him and this is how he repays me by agreeing to things and then not follow through.

He said I don't want things to end badly! So I agree but then try to call him and he doesn't answer. He doesn't respond till a week later saying that I think minimum contact is fine and that more would be hard and not the best thing.

We should talk...we need to talk..he comments!

The thing is that this man would treat me so well when he was with me and call and show up when I was sick. The way that he would hold me in his arms. I am so so confussed. He even said that he has thought about me being more...but just not ready for that.

He has been honest with me the whole time. The thing is that I didn't think that I would fall for him.

My question is that I have not yet responded to his e-mail. Should I take the time or just cut my losses and move on with my life? Please help!!!!