Separated But Not

I have been with my wife for ten years. She is 13 years older than I am and i have helped to raise her children and grandchildren who i love as though they were my own.

Two months ago she told me she was leaving me, but she is still living here with me.

She is pretty much dating. When she's around me she will do things like throw her legs over me and want me to rub her feet or kiss me but not let me close.

Says she doesn't like hurting me and I'm trying too hard. My heart is breaking everyday and i want to be able to give her her space so that i might be able to fix our relationship but its so hard to do when shes right beside me.

I guess i am lost and don't know what to do.