thinking of getting married but undecisive

by Tiffany
(Trinidad)

I met this guy from Turkey and he was working in my country but now in another country. he asked me to get married but i have to leave all behind to be with him, job, friends and family.

we also have to start over in terms of buidling a life together like acquiring house, land etc. its hard for me to start over. the waiting is driving me crazy for all these things cause i am getting older for childbearing.

i am scared not sure, still prolonging my decision for past year and half. now we argue alot when we are together.

i bring up all his dirty past with other women. i get stressed out and unhappy most of the time.

why?

i do love him but i don't feel the feelings anymore. Please help me!!

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

Leaving everything behind and moving to another country to start all over again is a big decision.

So, I will advice you to search your heart. Do you really want to do this?

Now about his dirty past. Are they really past? Could he abandon you when things get rough just as he did with other women in the past?

Only you can correctly judge the situation. I advice you talk in confidence to a dear friend who also knows this guy.

It's risky to trust your emotions in things like this. Ask your close friend for a fair assessment of the guy and the decision you want to make.

Some women who acted on impulses or emotions like this and made a major relocation found out later they didn't really know the guy well enough because the excitement of the relationship clouded their judgment.

So think twice before you leap.