torn between two loves, possible?

by AmberLea
(Chattanooga, Tennessee)

I'm having extreme trouble with the situation Im in. I feel I know my answer but i havent had luck with love so far so i dont trust.

2 years ago i met 'D' we dated and i gave up everything ... including my virginity... then i realized he wasn't at the same spot in our relationship that i was.

we broke up, he left the state for close to a year. when he came back we started talkin again.. once again i felt he wasnt in the same spot as i was.

we talked it over and we stopped talkin ... then just recently he contacted me and asked for a date.

everything feels different. i mean he's still the same but his actions and the way he is with me is different.

During this last break i met this other *older* guy and we hit it off. he told me he loved me pretty quick and then *bam* i dont hear from him for close to 2 weeks.

so i started the new thing with D *again* .. if im being truthful i have amazing feelings for both men at this time.

now i hear from the older guy and his mother had pasted and he just closed down thats why he hasnt talked to me .... i still have feelings for both...

i dont know if i'd call it love for the older guy but its something complete and could be love..

how do i choose between the two and should i chance both relationships for one even if i dont know that ill get the results i want?

*Extremly Emotional Mess Girl*

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

Did you say you feel something complete for the older guy?

If that is true, then why settle for less?

I will choose something whole and complete over half measures any time any day. What about you?

The on-off relationship with the other guy is certainly not what you want for yourself. It could be heartbreaking especially when you eventually fall deeply in love with him after several years of seeing in again and again.

What about keeping both relationships?

That is risky business. That is called cheating and unfaithfulness.

Listen, simplify your life by making a smart choice. It's the right thing to do. And it's the route that brings permanent joy.