True Love Waits

True love waits. Why? The simple reason is that love relationship is a complex relationship. You need time to understand each other. But waiting involves more.

True love waits because true love is not a hit and run thing. Love is meant to last forever. But for it to last forever it must be built on solid foundation. It's not sufficient to simply be told, "I love you". It must go beyond that. It must be deeper than just the words. Your man's love must be demonstrated by actions. And those actions must be sustained over time. Dubious men try to fake love.

They buy you gifts, they sponsor you on a trip, they foot the bill of your birthday party. They do this and more to demonstrate they love you.

But then, all of those things can be faked. And quite easily too. That is why true love waits. If your love is true, if your love is not some infatuation posing as love, you will wait. And you will insist your man wait.

To illustrate.

Consider the simple courtesy of a man opening the car door for his woman. Many men do this for their lover during the courtship days. Also when they go for a meal in a restaurant, he pulls the seat for her to sit down before he sits.

This impresses the woman he is dating. She feels he is courteous, caring, unassuming, considerate and well-mannered. His good manners win her over. She agrees to marry him.

However, after the wedding day and the euphoria of the honeymoon, few men continue to do that. Is it that they have suddenly forgotten those good manners or was the 'good manners thing' part of the strategy to win the girls heart?

Well, you answer that.

If you doubt what I say about many men not continuing with courtship manners, take a second look at couples that have been married five years. How many husbands who have been married that long still do the courteous thing for their wives?

Don't kid yourself. True love waits.

Time is the ultimate test of true love. A man can only pretend for so long. If your man is a pretender, sooner or later he will run out of patience and run short of courtesy.

How do you know your man may be a pretender?

Tell him true love waits.

Tell him to wait. Insist on not rushing into the relationship. Insist on not rushing into bed with him. Insist on knowing him better.

Knowing him better takes time. Insist on spending quality time together instead of just spending hours together watching movies.

Think about it.

You're going to spend the rest of your life with this man, day in day out. Are you going to enjoy doing so? Will you be bored two years into the relationship? He holds you spell bound now. Will he still hold you spell bound five years from today? He is sweet and caring today. Will he still be so in 10 years? He's like an angel from heaven. He's just perfect. But is any man really perfect? Perhaps he's not telling you everything about himself. Is it likely he's hiding something from you?

If you want true love, you will learn to wait.

The unfortunate thing is that many girls don't like to wait. Perhaps it's the influence of television and movies.

In soap operas and movies, a girl meets a boy. Ten minutes later they're making love passionately. Young girls see that and they think it's cool.

Unfortunately, many of these young girls end up as single mothers struggling to make a living. If only they had waited!

The sad truth is that many of those boys anxious to take you to bed are not in for the long haul. They want a quick fling and out the door they go.

Do not become a sex toy in the hands of some man.

True love waits.

When you find a man who shows interest in you, test to see that his interest is genuine.