Two people who truly love each other and can't get together

by Lori
(Arizona)

I have loved someone for almost 15 years and he loves me. There is little doubt of this from either side or from anyone that knows either one of us.

However, he is reluctant to give things a try one more time (we did have a difficult time for awhile, but both have come a long way since that time).

I will always love him and vice versa, but I just don't know how or if he will ever feel that he wants to commit 24/7 again. There are no other
people in our lives, either. Is there anything I can do to help him realize that we can be okay?

Many people spend their whole lives looking for love and then there are those of us who know what it is, have it, and just can't get back to a good base again.

Thanks.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

The biggest threat to any love relationship is fear . . . fear of failure, fear of commitment, fear of the unknown, and fear that if you once had problems with the relationship the problems may surface again.

How do you deal with fear?

Simple. You do two things.

1. You constantly reassure the other party through words and actions that the past won't repeat itself again and

2. Patience - it's difficult to change the other person's mind. So you have to be patient

What if the person never comes around?

Then you have to decide to remain permanently single and dream of what could have been or move on.

Some people never get over a hurt. Some people do almost immediately. And some people do eventually.

Will your man ever get over this?

I don't know. Just do the two things mentioned above and pray. He may come around sooner than you expect.