Was I right to feel uncomfortable about my boyfriends friendship with his best friend that was a girl?

by Sasha
(Washington)

When I first started dating my boyfriend he told me he had a best friend that was a girl and I thought cool.

The first time I hung out with them both we had drinks and hung out but they were a little too close.

They would hang on each other and he would give her kisses on her cheek but I just blew it off because i had only been with him about a month and we were all tipsy so I thought I was imagining it all.

So after that happened I still continued to hang out with her along with my boyfriend as well.

Then about 3 months into our relationship he told me they had slept together a year before and that they were both drunk and it was a mistake.

He said they never talked about it and acted as if it never happened. Now that really made me uncomfortable But I blew it off because we were adults and figured I could be cool with it becuase it was before I was in the picture.

But then as time passed other things made me more uncomfortable. Let me describe some other instances that made me uncomfortable.

1. I would always feel like the third wheel with them because they always had their jokes and stories.

2. They would text each other and get off the phone saying, I love you. They both said it was a brotherly sisterly love.

3. She would always call him for ridiculous favors like for him to show her where to park at, for her new college campus. Why did he have to take her, why couldn't he just explain to her and give directions?

4. He told me how he went with her to go pick up birth control and how he jokingly said "good, now we can f&$&!" I obviously did not think it was funny.

5. One morning they both met me for breakfast and when they showed up, she had written on his hand. I love you so bad.

Those are just a few things that bothered me. I tried to be her friend but I couldn't do it because it was just too uncomfortable for me.

After we had been dating for about half a year I told him it made me uncomfortable how they acted and if he could just respect me by not being that way with her and if he could stop using the L word with her.

We did go through some fights and arguments because of their "friendship". He started secretly texting her and erasing the messages because he didn't want me to get upset with it.

To shorten this up, he no longer talks to her, so I think.

Where those reasons valid for me to feel uncomfortable with their so called friendship?