We Always End Up
With An Argument

Now about your disagreement and arguments.

She' s different. She's a different person from a different background and with a different upbringing.

Consequently, she's conservative.

She says you're rude and mean. She wants you to change. She wants you to be polite, gentle, and kind-hearted.

On the other hand, you're comfortable with cursing (as much as 3 - 5 times a day). You're liberal and open . . . she says too liberal.

Obviously, your opinions are divergent. And she wants you to change and be more like her. But you do not want to change who you are.

She still hangs out with you. This means she likes you. However, she would like you, even love you, more if you just change.

But now they eat with stainless steel spoons, sleep on cosy beds, and live in modern houses some of which are architectural wonders.

They changed. And the change benefits everyone including generations yet unborn.

So, there's nothing wrong with changing who you are if the change is proven to be positive.

Your female friend wants you to . . .

>> change from being the mean, cursing, liberal, open-to-everything kind of person to . . .

>> a kind, gentle, compassionate, caring, considerate and empathetic person

Is that a positive change?

Certainly, it is.

Should you reject that? Please don't.

Life is beautiful when you value other people and their opinions. No one is an island of knowledge.

Remember too that you may not always be right. And even when you're right, not everyone may see your point.

Selling your opinion to others and getting them to buy in and see your point of view is an art. And it can be learned.

However, when you're wrong, be humble enough to admit it. And even when you're right and others can't seem to get the point, relax, give them time to think it through.

You and your female friend could become great, inseparable friends. It could even graduate into a love relationship as you grow older.

But you MUST learn to . . .

The bible says, "Pleasant sayings are a honeycomb. Sweet to the soul and a healing to the bones".

You may not take the bible seriously. But in real life relationships, these words prove true.

Pleasant words unbuild a broken spirit. Curses tear down and foster disagreement and rife.

You say you have a strong passion for your friend. Is that true?

If it is, you will do this for her . . . Change.

If for nothing else, just to put a smile on her face.

Wait. How do you feel when your dad or a friend goes out of his way to do something to make you happy?

You appreciate it, right?

Do the same for her.

Love is sharing, caring, and giving.

First give. Then take.

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