We Never Have Anything To Talk About
Me and my boyfriend Brandon have a good relationship. But I only have one problem. We never have anything to talk about. People always tell me to be myself and say what's on my mind but nothing is ever on my mindand I never have anything to say on the phone. What should I do? What should we talk about? Response From Samson, True Love Advisor Perhaps I can help you. I do a lot of talking. And there's always something to talk about. Making conversation is sweetest when it flows naturally. That is, one thing leads to another seamlessly. I will teach you how. Let's start. When you meet a friend, what is the natural thing you do first? You exchange pleasantries, right? Do the same when you talk with your man whether on the phone or when you visit. Start with pleasantries. Try this natural pattern of conversation. "Hi. How are you?" He says, "fine, thank you. And you?" You reply, "I'm cool. How about your parents and sister?" He says, "They are doing great. My mum have been especially sweet lately. She's all laugh and grins from ear to ear? You reply, "Really? Did she win a jackpot?" . . . (call this humor) He says, "I don't know. She's just so happy. She wouldn't say why". You reply, "I'm happy for you. It's better to have a happy mum than a sad mum". He says, "I guess you're right. Her newfound happiness enables me get whatever I want from her. Talk about expected blessing". You reply, "Good for you. I wish I were in your shoes. My mum is a happy person any day any time. But she's not grinning from ear to ear yet. Should I come see your mum? Perhaps I can leave with a present". He replies, "You're welcome to my home any time. You know you mean the world to me". Smiling you reply, "That's so sweet of you. You know that's why I love you". Time to change subject. You say, "I need your help. There's this assignment I've been working on and can seem to get through". He says, "what's it about?" I hope you get the message. Don't look for something special to talk about. Let your conversation flow naturally. One thing will lead to another and another, and yet another. One way to deepen your love relationship is to do things together. Get him involved in whatever you want to do. Talk to him about your plans. Say something like, "I found a custom made nail cutter. I need your opinion before I make a purchase. Can you please come over?" The next time . . . "Can you believe it, I made straight "A" in six courses". He will naturally congratulate you and conversation flows. The secret is sharing information which becomes bases for enriching conversation. Starting talking and mesmerizing your man. Talking regular with someone you love cements your love relationship. Don't miss any opportunity to make this happen. P.S: Have a question?
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